Re: What to do in this situation?
Haan na...happy eating kehke bhaag jao...treadmill pe to mujhe daurna parega....
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Re: What to do in this situation?
Where is Amir? Waiting for him to post again as his post are too hilarious! I got popcorn ready this time! :)
Bon, no no not bhaaging yaar … infact koshish is : sab ko bhagaao … like you said , treadmill per … 
… I am a smartie … I can have my 8 rice cups of delicious , spicy biryani …
uhhh ohh , i can see a curse coming my way … 
**Iggle **… same here … popcorn and nachos all set … where is he 
TO SHay and allbozo's with negative comments:
Shay u posted the whole of the sensitive parts of the relationship.
Still rather than understanding my hurt you focus on hers. Im the one whos shattered here not HER.
ok You assert she shdunt keep friend with her EX. Thats a valid point but in this circumstance:
I tell you i dont CARE about that:
Becos this perosn PROMISED me whatver happens she wud not ever break frisnhip with me. She Assured me that she woud only ever marry A BROAdMINDED Guy.
So from that thats all i know. and According to me she shud honour her obligations.This is not fair. Ok fine, if she gave me lilttle attention or handled the break-up more better maybe i wud give her space and comrprimise abit. But her total rudenss, and ignorance makes more more unhappy.
OK i shudnt tell her husbnad, i know thats really bad. But i cnt belive after all ive narrated abut her *****ness, evryone is still sympathetic towards her.
Yes this Guy did Umra, he has alredy been to God and prays and asks for help evryday, but it hasnt worked. Im nt saying ima good perosn, but looking at the intensity of my feelins if i was really bad i wud have spilled it long ago to her hubby made myself at peace rather than coming on this place.
I saved her life once, i cud have left her to die.
But when its my turn she hears after 8 months after me telling her i want to die she texts back one line:
''oh are you still alive''
Isn that not cruel, evil. So even if i had died, and my family were suferring wondering what the hell happned. IT SHOWS SHE WUD STILL NOT GIVE A F...K
But still evryone is on her side.
One thing more, such unfair ttacks on me certainly do not make mo more happy actually more provoked.
U people talk abut preserving the lil bit of rspect i have, by doing right action. but Tell me do i anyway cuurently have any respect here or there ?
Yeh I have mixed feellings. I wont act 'manly' and conceal my true self. Yeh i feel cheated hurt, luaghed at,dmaged ego, jealosu...evrything.
I cant Help it. It no like i want to feel this way.Why is everyone treating me like the monster. I see its mostly u girls here that are doing so. It becos u just think thats its u girls u an be only cheated, hurt, and whatver, u r always angels. But a girl can treat a guy anyway he wants cos hes a 'guy'and his doesnt have feelins or his feeins dont count.
To all such girls replying to me All i say is F.Off. I knwo ranting like this doesnt isnt good. But some peoples tantrumic advices force it.
and to diwana. dude ok ur putting me in compitetion to her. Honestly i had just 1 gf. before her.==which was no physcial not even near. U must admit thast quite natural. She had 3 bf.s before me. Now its obvioslsy worse for her being a girl. I do have a right on her, becos rights are based on agreemnst and promises.
Trusts is formed from such promises.
She promised to lforevr remain friends with me.
so to SHAY, She is obliged to stay in contact me, becso she Promised me, she assured me, and i did so many things for her. If its not cheating telling such a perosn to f..of then what is it.
DONT TRY TO EMOTIOINALLY BRAINWASH MY HEAD INTO THAT SHES NOT AT ANY FAULT. IM sory yes i am extremly posseive, it wud be beter for me to let her go. But i CANT,i dont knwo why, i got too attached to her, i cant help it. and this feelins goes subsides somtimes, but then when i think of that OTHER GUY close to her, i feel so intense again and evrything comes all BacK. II cud understand if he was an old friend (or maybe one of her ex's), or some an arrnaged marriage. But i cant tolerate losing to some guy who probably just met her 2 weeks before them doing Nikah. After my 3 years effort to his 2 weeks its nt FAIR. I didnt know shes that desperate. she stoppe coming online, she never conveyed to me how needy she was, if she ever said once conveyed- had a good chat to me, i wud have succumbed, but she never gave me a chance which hurts me most.
And to all girls repliers. I say in advance all ur r just cheating losers, you no-ones with your small-weak chiken leg selves. You words cannot disroot me in the least. U R Use-less things. Just burdens on humanity.
IM A MAN
Now im going have some work. bak later.
Is it possible you see a psychiatrist? You do need help.
I am not saying you have a psychiatric illness but at least you need to be checked out.
It is like when a car makes unusual sounds, its better to take it to mechanic.
It's not uncommon that these kind of events in life specially at young age make the person develop psychiatric illness. Off course they deny it and say what's wrong with me?
wait a minute…
it just occured to me that maybe our friend Amir here has been watchin a few too many bollywood films / dramas. He prolly thinks he’ll go bi*ch out to the hubby and he will go ‘oh yeah, you deserve her coz you were first in line, so I will now divorce her and get the two bachay married myself!’
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Lines/ queues are only found in britain. Ye fashion aap ke yahan kabhi tha hi nahin
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stop trying to fool the world with your self-centred evil thinking, nobody’s gonna condone what you wanna do.
if you were not a loser, I’m sure she would have married you and or waited for you. Now don’t make her pay for a mikstake she made, being friends with you. I’m sure everyone pays for their mistakes in some form or another, but she already regrets having anything to do with you, thats why she told you to go do whatever you like, she don’t care. But you are one of em losers who just want to keep lurkin in your world of dreams!
Every story has two sides amir....what you think or assuming on her behalf etc, it may not be the case afterall......you have no idea what went on her side or what could going on rite now, and since you are unable to get in touch and ask her, try to avoid thinkin negative.
Don't make this into an ego issue..... you need to pray, pray for peace within yourself!
First of all Amir I think the thread opener name is Amir.
Aap Pakistani to naheen lagtay jis tarha aap Pakistani larkion aur husband ko describe kar rahay hain.
I know what you want to hear.
Pehli baat to wo larki ghalat thi jo online larkon ko dost banati thi. If you are muslim then you know kay larkion ka dosti karna larkon say aur larkon ka dosti karna larkon say mana hai. Inhi sub wajoohaat ki bina per mana hai.
Agar aap waqai muslim hain to aap ka Islam us waqt kahan mar gia tha jub us larki say chating kartay thay. Chalo wo waqt to guzar gia laikin ub aap ka islam kahan mar gia hai jo is baat pay insist kar rahay hain kay wo aap say her haal main ub bhi dosti rakhay jo intehai ghalat hai aap ki taraf say. Khuwah us nain wada kia tha ya na kia tha. Nibhana chahyay tha ya na nibhana chahyay thay laikin rule to aap jaantay hain kay Islam main dosti naheen rakhi jaa sakti kisi soorat. Agar pehlay ghalti kar li to zaroori naheen kay ussay nibhaya jaay.
Main aap ko bura naheen kahta. Aap sahi ho wada us nain kia tha to nibhana tha. Aur aap ko batana tha. Jo kay larki nain ghalat kia bohat aap kay saath. Laikin ho sakta hai aap kay kisi undaaz aur baat ki wajah say us nain wo qadam uthaain hon gay. Jaisay kay aap bata chukain hain kay aik dafa dosti ki khatir wo apnay jaan say bhi khail gai. To zaroor wo aap say kisi na kisi baat ya undaaz ki wajah say itni disoppoint ho gai ho gi kay aisa kia.
Aap ka naraz hona ghussa hona aur badlay ka sochna intehai natural hai. Laikin as a insaan is pay qaboo pana bhi aap ka kaam hai. Aur aap qaboo kar rahay hain warna agar aisa hi hota to aap kub ka bata chukay hotay us kay shohar ko jub kay aap nain ub tuk naheen bataya. Aur mera khiaal hai aap kabhi bhi naheen batain gay.
Kioon? Is liaay kay aap nain kaha kay aap us say mohabbat kartay hain. Jo mohabbat kartay hain wo apnay mahboob ko takleef naheen ponhchatay. Haan agar mohabbat suchchi ho to wo aisa kartay hain. Agar sirf pasand ho to wo badla lay saktay hain.
Aap yaqeenun suchchi mohabbat kartay hon gay jabhi to itna hurt howaay hain. I can understand your feeling. Main na aap ko ghalat kahta hoon aur na larki ko. Kia pata kin halaat ki wajah say us nain shadi kar li.
Sirf apni side say naheen larki ki side say bhi sochain. Us nain zaroor aisay mauqay diaay hon gay aur is tarha bataya ho ga jo shayad aap na samajh paay hon. Warna 3.5 saal ki dosti chor kar wo kioon 2 week ki dosti ko ahmiaat deti.
Kuch loag shikway ya shikayat naheen kartay different undaaz say baat poochtay hain ya maloom kartay hain. So us ko jawab mil gaya ho ga aap ki taraf say. Jaisa kay aap kay poston say pata chalta hai kay na us kay parent aur na koi bhai hai to zahir hai ussay forri faisla karna para ho ga jo kay aap nain time ka bahana kara aur us nain samajh lia aur apna bandobast kar lia.
Badla sachchi mohabbat karnay walay naheen laitay. Us kay Husband say jealous hona aap ki fitrat kay baray main bata rahi hai. Us kay husband ka kia qusoor na hi larki ka hai balkay aap ka hai jo us say time managa us nain ussay samjha ho ga yay tarkha raha hai.
Aap apnay tamaam baton aur andaaz pay nazar saani karain to aap ko khud apna qusoor nazar aa jaay ga laikin aap ki poston say naheen lagta kay aap haqeeqat tasleem karna chahtay hain.
Haan hurt huway hain aap to mushkil ho gi. Bahtareen tareeqa yay hai kay namaaz panjgana ka ahtamaam karain aur Allah say dua mangain aur apnay hasad jalan ko dil say nikaal phainkain.
Hum sub ki duaain aap kay saath hain.
Larki ka agar physical talluq naheen tha to mera naheen khiaal kay us ka husband aap ki baton ko itna ahmiaat day ga.
Bohat say sub kuch jaannay kay baad bhi aisi larkion say shadi kar letay hain.
I know a girl was pregnant with someones baby and got married with that persons brother. He knows everything and living togather. It's not a big deal for some ppl.
I also know a husband who's wife was and still madly in love with someone her husband knows that but love his wife. As he knows she was and is innocent. As you can't keep yourself from loving someone. They even make fun of her ex.
You can't make her life miserable as if Allah don't want.
Have you ever heard.
As you said she has no parents and no brother so she will go on street when his huband will kick her. It's only your assumption.
Jis ka koi naheen uska to khuda hai yaro
main naheen kahta kitabon main likha hai yaro.
She left you before and she won't ever come to you crying for sure.
Re: What to do in this situation?
Amir,
From reading all your posts it seems you're here for sympathy not for advice. You repeatedly complain about the fact that everyone here sees you as the bad guy. But you need to think for a second you are the one that is here so the posts are directed towards you not her. And when you insult not only the girl who you claim to love but everyone here, people take you as the bad guy and her as the poor girl who had to put up with this behavior of yours that you show here. Youre right we dont know you, and all we know of you is what you show us. Had you said she betrayed you and you need help to get over that betrayal the responses you got wouldve been very different.
You say you love her, but on the inside wish her husband finds out and kicks her out of the house? what kind of love is that? When you love someone dont you want them to be happy no matter what? Do you not put your feelings second to theirs just because what makes them happy makes you happy.
You were friends with her for 2 years you had ample time to marry her but as you say you were hesitant cause she had 3 bfs before. When she asked you to marry her, did you not realize what situation she was in? Her parents had just passed away she has no siblings and is all alone in the world. Then after saying ill marry you after 6 months u had no contact with her for over 2 months!!
Any sane person would think hes not interested but doent have it in him to tell me, so pointless to wait for him.
As for the promise to talk to you and be friends with you, do you feel taht you are still the same person she made the promice to? Did you make her feel like she could still be your friend or did you potray yourself as someone who wishes her harm by threatning her.
If you have sinned and sincerly repented you leave it in the past, you do not destroy the future by holding on to it. You think she will cheat on her husband? Wouldnt talking to you be the easist way to cheat? yet she told you to stay away from her... you did not listen so now she is frustrated by your repeated attempts of contact and is being rude.
She was in the wrong to do what she did, but from the victem you are making yourself the bad guy by the insults and anger youre putting across.
In the end ( this is getting too long now)believe that Everything happens for a reason" you do not understand at the time but a few years from now youll realize that her leaving was the best thing that happened to you. Everytime you feel hurt and down sit down and pray read the quran turn this in the event that brought you closer to Allah. Inshallah youll find peace in knowing that Allah is there for you wil get what is yours, and what is not urs you will never get it no matter what you do.
Re: What to do in this situation?
^ And we will end on this note.