What to do in this situation?

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Its just getting sad with every post of yours !

Dude , rudeness aside ... on a friendly note ... this approach in life is not good .. not only in matters of the heart , but in every aspect of life be it career , friendship, sports ....

Be a good soul and pray to Allah to help you to move on ... live and let live.

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^CB leave my man alone!!

He rocognized he need to be a man, he is NOW going eat meat and potatos.
He is giving up vanilla ice cream starting today.
So give him some time.

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:omg:

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your man is all yours PM … :omg:

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and no dark , hot chocolate cake either ?? :hmmm:

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Yeh Liaba, im throwing a tantrum, im being illogical. And...?

Tantrums r alwasy illogical. Thats the meaning of the word. So ur tantrums no diferent, infact urs r probably worse cos ur a stupid girl. Now get the hell out of this forum.

To Others:

OK Fine.

NOBODY is gona feel sorry for me. All of u feel sorry for her despite all what ive told u.
Shes the one who used me, fooled me, neglected me, left me to Die. I did evreything for her.

BUT shes the one who gets symptahy. Does she deserve IT?

If someone promised u for 2 years they will marry you, then stop talking suddenly to becos they r 'busy' at work,-so u give them space to 'work' but in this 'space' they r planning, marrying someone else.
Not even that She has alredy gotten into Nika'. Wow Forget asking, dont even tell him that u r doing Nikah with some next guy.

Then you get treated rude as a pice of s...t, who never even existed on planet Earth.
Despite being promised you will remain friends forever.

How wud u feel. Wudnt u feel cheated.

But Ofcourse No, 95% of the people here would feel ecstatic that, that they did this. You wud feel EcstatiC that they gavea damn **** abut you or ur love.

Ofcourse 95% Of You have been wronged in your life, never wanted punshimnet for the doer.

Fine. All People im wrong. I shud suffer. I deserved it, it was my fault feeling sorry for this orphan girl, it was my fault for caering for her.

I will not tell her hubby.

No need to worry

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shy/CB I meant to say "NOW" instead of "not"

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I figured that out on time :omg:

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:lifey:

if you were were lamb-bereyani you would not be that smart.

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To Amir;

I know you feel hurt and angry but the reality is that the girl does not love your anymore and does not care about you anymore.
Maybe she did at one time but whatever her reasons, she chose someone else.
Let her live her life and you should move along as well.

There are plenty of other girls that could be even better than her.

Just keep yourself busy with work, sports or some other social activities. In a few years she will be a distant memory.

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Thanks for constructive advice zx.

I know that is the right thing to do.

But i cant help it.

I Think its thta 'Other' Guy thats makes me most angry. I YES im jealous of him.

The B...d Took my Girl for Gods sake, How can any man tolerate that

My blood-Boils evry min i think of him with my Friend.

You know what i mean..

I just want him to know, that it is not as so he thinks hes the only one whop did the 'feat' of 'trapping' this toppest beatiful girl angel. I WAnt him to know hes not as lucky as he thinks, other been there before HiM.

His 'Wife' has been liked guys before him.

And I want him to know that. Then see what he thinks about her. This was one of the reaons i did not haste into marrying her before. Although, i belived her she had no physical, I was put off by the fact she had 3 bf.s before me.

And I want THIS GUY to know aswell. Man you tell me this is big lie shes living on isnt she, but hiding this fact. I mean this is defintly an important aspect fora paki guy. If she tells him b4 marriage he may put it aside as her past and rspct her for being honest and still marry her. But c'mon, lieing to him about it...i think itsa major thing.

Be Hoenst to evry guy here. Unless you have been a womanizer, or playboy yourself im certain that every single one of you would want his potential wife to tell him if she had any prevois bf. (especially four) and if not thne you would be extremly angry finding out later wouldnt you?

See. In that Althouhg im not gonna rush and spill the beans, but im saying that it might bea good thing to tell her husbnad the truth-it will be benficial to him.

Im sure every shreef decent guy here would like to know that about his wife.

??/

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Amir .. now you are talking sense .. thank god :-)

See , if you look at a the starting few posts in the thread , no one claimed that she wasnt wrong ... yes she should / could have handled this in a better way so you didnt feel this way ... yeah? we all accept she is at fault in the handling of the matter ...

but what happened afterwards was that she moved on and you became aggressive and THAT was wrong ...

Its very hard to get over ones feelings ... but Amir, this is life ... your life is equally important as hers and you also have equal right to happiness as her... she got her happiness ... and now you need to search for yours... I promise you , if you keep yourself positive and leave it on Allah ... you will get a good caring, loving life partner ... inshallah ... and it will help you overcome all negative feelings ...

please concentrate on paving a better life for yourself and look after your happiness .. forget her... coz if you keep thinking about her .. you will keep getting hurt ... put your attention to other activities ... and inshallah life will work out for you.

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Amir_pindi saheb, everyone has given you just one advise and that is to MOVE ON! But apparently you are NOT willing to take that advise, and keep arguing in hopes someone will suggest something to your likings. Is that what you want??? If you have already made up your mind, then what do you want from us??? :mad:
Why do you want the girl to be your friend again when she doesn’t want to??? why do you feel its her duty to be your friend?? I hardly think any husband would appreciate his wife having such friendships..why don’t you just understand that? she is MARRIED for God’s sake! LEAVE HER ALONE! stop arguing and give yoru silly silly reason as to why she should keep friendship with you. Honestly, a girl should rather be alone than being with a chipkooo and emotional fool like you!!! sorry for being harsh, but thats reality for you! Grow up, and start acting like a man.

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These Girls are so Clever. especially paki girls-the r crafty.

We Guys are what we seem from the top. We dont hide things. We had relation b4 before..ok fine..dont marry us..as if i cant find somone else.

But Girls, are different. If Nabi Pak, said that their is ''big 'fitna' in 3 things, a mans house, a mans horse, and a women.''

Nabi Pak also said ladies will be the majority in hell, because they of thier clever wits, back-biting, and ungratefulness/unfaithfulness to husbands.

So should we not warn each other about some one dangerous we know as good samaritans.?

And i want an answer to this one pls..

***''As Her husbnad defintly will find out one day.....if he find out like when she is pregnant or has 4 kids and totally dependant on him it will b worse wont it''?*
Its better for her and him if he finds out now, rather than later and if he doesnt mind then ok, its relief, if he does then atleast get it over and out of the way.

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By the way consolations like i wil find some better girl are not appreciated. Because I do not like nor trust any girl anymore. Dnt want commnst on this thankx.

so No Thankx

But All Comments otherwise welcome

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Amir - good for you that you won't tell her Hubby anymore. All you really needed was to vent out your anger on Gupshup to feel better! Lol! :)

What she did was so hurtful and it sounds like she was taking revenge out on you. But think of it positively that at least this helped you to see the true type of person she was!

You deserve so much better and inshallah, you will find someone who will always keep their promise to you. :)

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^ :rotfl:

that was soooo random!!

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This post came here while I was writing mine! Amir you just said in previous post that you wouldn't tell her Hubby!

Don't wish or look for ways to break up a couple's marriage - that's the work of a shaitan.

If she has had pasts, this doesn't make her a bad person and should not be used against her.

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I wrote that after he said he wouldn’t tell her Hubby anymore! Lol! But then he posted his post while I must have been writing mine and changed his mind! Hehe! :slight_smile:

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Amir, she didnt have any physical relations with anyone before marriage as you said in one of your posts ... she was looking for an alliance for marriage and hence developed friendship that she hoped woud result in marraige .. yeah ?

ok so she moved on because that time you werent ready for marriage ... now she HASNT comitted a sin so big that her husband will leave her or appreciate you telling him what was in her past ....

if you are not happy with the womankind , then get yourself busy with work and sports ... by making her life difficult , its going to be you who God will be sending to hell ... not her ... you are victimizing her .... try to understand this one point ...

The jist of all that we are telling you is like this :

IF you move on and forget her , you will be seen as a dignified man and people will be with you.

IF you decide to act evil and disturb her life , then people will see you as a loser and worthless emotional idiot.

You decide once and for all what you want to do ....