MIL says not to cook a certain salan as you dont cook it well…
quite rude, she coudlve just said ill do it…rather than say that. was offering to cook all the meals for a dawat and ive noticed she doesnt let me cook, will make reasons…then will indirectly make me feel guilty for not doing anything…grrrrr
ps. he salans are NOT GOOD…
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certain salan are forbidden.
you can cook other salans..:@:
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From the day you signed that nikkah your taste buds and your MIL's taste buds became opposed to the cooking of the other party. LOL
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Nadz, a word of advice for you.
Instead of always looking at a situation with negativity, look for the good in people and situations. Your posts make you sound like the most miserable and unhappy person out there when in fact you should be grateful that you are blessed with a loving husband and a beautiful child, m'A. Khush raho gi aur auron ko khush rakho gi, to khush rehna seekho gi. Sometimes, if you overlook someone's faults and they'll do the same for you.
You're not a child, but a married woman, and in case you didn't realize it, your attititude impacts your husband and child. You OWE it to them to be a more positive and happy person - especially given that most of what you complain about are minor issues.
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You don't get to stand in the kitchen for hours preparing meals that take loads of effort in the garmi and in return you don't get tired. What else do you want? jeez
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lol
in fact, in not miserable, my threads are only threads...yes the problem in the thread exists, however its only on here, life goes on otherwise for me, but i think its good if i list anything that even bothers me A LITTLE just to see the responses, and i realise most of the time my reactions or feelings are OTT and so instantly i calm down...
trust me guys, u guys are diamondssss
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You don't get to stand in the kitchen for hours preparing meals that take loads of effort in the garmi and in return you don't get tired. What else do you want? jeez
i HIGHLY doubt shes doing it for MY benefit....
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Thing is, i cook well. my husband likes it. so i didnt understand her comments thats why....
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If she doesn't let you cook or passes a comment, than cook anyway and say its for my husband :D
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why don't you just stick to your MIL in the kitchen, let her do the cooking but just help her out by handing her masalas and stuff then she won't be able to say that nadz don't do anything.
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i HIGHLY doubt shes doing it for MY benefit....
Even if shes not, think as if she is. Or else you're just going to make it more difficult for you. And besides, why does it even matter what she says when your hubby likes it. No need to prove your point by cooking huge meals for dinners and all that when you can just do with small meals for the hubby and save yourself some effort.
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You could...
1) Ask her to teach you/show you how to make the salan. Risk being proactive, taking the initiative...possibly bonding with the MIL, etc.
2) Dawats are a big/stressful occasion to cook for. Instead, why don't you start with cooking smaller things....like pakoray or aloo ki tikkiyan...and then work your way up from there. Maybe starting with something smaller will develop some trust in your in-laws.
3) Praaaaaaaaaaaaaaaise your MIL. Feign complacency and tell her "You're right Ammi Ji. You are such a great cook. You make all the dishes so well...from the smallest to the biggest. The guests would love each and every dish made solely by you." Then let her do ALL the work....let her sweat over the peeling/chopping/dicing/stirring/frying etc..........while you work on a much easier task like serving the food....a lil cleaning here n there....taking care of your daughter.
^Instead of making your life tougher, Nadz, with all the complaining and moaning that you do....................why don't you calm down for a sec and see the good things/ease that can result from a situation. If she's determined never to like you...if she's made up her mind that anything and everything you do will NEVER earn her stamp of approval......you could just be polite and let her sweat it out. You can't control what others do or say.....but you can control your attitude and how you chose to react. And if you're not going to make adjustments in how you choose to handle/react to things....then you're going to be part of the problem.
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I think all MIL think they are kitchen's queen or something. I feel so ashamed that I was trying to compete with my IL's cooking until my mom put me in my place and told me I am better than that and cooking is no big deal and seriously anyone in the world can cook!!!!
I don't know why inlaws think cooking is such an act. My mother in law who thankfully I haven't had a chance to live with YET told me you will learn all the tricks of our family's cooking when you come visit us. They don't even cook that good! nvm!
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I have a feeling nadz you are not as bad as you make your self out to be through your threads. Anyways, be glad that she only stops you from making some salans and doesnt make a salan out of your brain for being so damn annoying! :).
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Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Your MIL wont let you cook................and this is bad because......?
Who cares about the reason man...sit back and relaxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx :)
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ive noticed she doesnt let me cook, will make reasons...then will indirectly make me feel guilty for not doing anything.......grrrrr
I think alot of you are missing the point, or maybe its just me who sees this?
Some people use this as a manipulation tactic--do all the chores and then complain to 1. make themselves look good (like the martyr they are) and 2. make the other person look bad (like a lazy person who cannot do anything).
So yes, on one hand I would be worried because with some people you just don't know that if u do or don't do something today, tomorrow they will throw it back at you to make you look bad.
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she doesn't like your cooking, you dont like hers .... its a simple case of even Steven ... no? :)
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lets see how long this thread goes 
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Ladies and gentleman were into a terrefic clash of titanic proportions…
MIL v DIL seconds out round three! :faris:
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MIL cook kerney ko boley tu problem
MIL na cook kerney ko boley tu problem
