what to do in this situation as a mother...

[Iyla]

Re: what to do in this situation as a mother…

@SilentNation

then i came back to canada after 3 months or so because i had to apply for his immigration. as soon as i landed here my mushkilain in a way went away. i stopped calling him. i would not pay much attention to what he was up to. i had my friends back, my family, my life. if he ever called i talked to him for a few mins about how his haal chaal was and then told him how i had to do something or the other and said goodbye. the distance brought him back to me. slowly slowly when he realized that i wasn’t there for him whenever he needed me, that i had my own life, that i was a happy person again, that i wasn’t chasing him, he started to chase me. it has been a couple of months since i have been back and he literally calls me everyday, leaves sweet voicemails, emails, texts. if i ever call him n he’s with his mom or sis he would leave them to talk to me. the reason i am telling u all this is because u need to realize that u have to let him chase you. you can only do that when you are back in england. you will have friends, family, a life and that will keep you busy and once he sees that you are very happy without him he will be all over you. the trick is though don’t leave in anger. just endure it for a month more and then say a proper goodbye to everyone and leave.

wow sorry to hear what you went through. so depressing

do you plan to go back to pakistan now? its sounds like your hubby has changed only b/c you’re away but will it all start again once you go back?