So these two cousins in a family we know just got married. The guy is extremely religious, like everything is considered haram to him. The girl is pretty religious too, not as religious as him, but still religious. So anyway, on the wedding night something happened and she, by her choice went home on the wedding night. Neither one of them showed up to the valima the next day.
Before the valima, we just found out her father told the boys family that his daughter wants a divorce and things can’t be resolved. Her dads not even one of those understanding dads, he’d sit there and curse his kids out till he was blue in the face before he’d let any of them get a divorce. “Izzat” is a big thing in their family.
Neither family will tell anyone the reason for the divorce, but all we know is that the guy said something on the wedding night and that led to everything.
This was a couple of months ago but it just came back because the girl just got engaged last week. The guy got married seven months after the whole fiasco. Both of them to two other cousins.
How does anyone here know? Besides wild guesses being thrown around, your not going to get anything out of this thread. Don't mean to sound harsh but since both have obviously moved on I don't know why you are concerned, and how this really effects you.....
How does anyone here know? Besides wild guesses being thrown around, your not going to get anything out of this thread. Don't mean to sound harsh but since both have obviously moved on I don't know why you are concerned, and how this really effects you.....
You never know, someone could have heard of something similar happening or such, and one of the wild guesses could be right.
You never know, someone could have heard of something similar happening or such, and one of the wild guesses could be right.
I know they moved on, I'm just curious.
Lol. I know, pate main dard hota hai na. Its just the curious nature of us desis that we can't stop from discussing and gossiping.
But yes, God forbids, this can happen to anyone and as we are making aware of ourselves by discussing different life scenarios, we can guess about this scenario also, even though its really difficult to make a guess.
either the girl or guy was forced into that marriage .... and he/she aint getting over it ... apart from that I dont think anything else could be an issue here !
I have heard similar story twice. Separation happened on first night which led to divorce.
In one case, friend of mine (who was a eye witness of the wedding) told me that he was not ........ I don't know what the exact term is but no its not gay. I think something different from gay. In fact girls family took Fatwa from some Molvi and he said that in this case Nikkah is not valid or exists.
So may be same thing happened with that girl as well.
Umm, maybe she tried something "haram" according to him in the bedroom and he flipped out?
And from cases I've heard, some people that are very religious aren't neccessarily shareef. He could have forced himself on her or tried do to something really depraved. I know of one case I heard through a friend where the guy was extremely religious but turned out to be a sex addict after his marriage, he even forced himself on his wife when she was menstruating. So anything could have happened, weirdos ki koi kami nahin hai dunya mein :-S.
Who knows what stuff the maulvi saab was into. After years and years of cooking up fantasies and restraining from dating Palmela and her five sisters, he probably went straight for the kill in a way that freaked her out. Or another more realistic possibility is that he told her he was gay. What can you say, its all guesses.
It's amazing how people only think among certain *lines.
There r tons of other things that can cause a situation like that. And since both of them are married or about to get married I hardly doubt the breakup was due to any sexual reasons u guys r cooking up.
