Re: What shud i do now........? Feeling lost
^ Exactly.
Pendu,
You think the guy's mom sprung the cousin rishta on him suddenly....like out of the blue??? (I doubt this because usually hints are given for some time). Assuming he did have an idea from way before that his parents were interested in his cousin.....why'd he pursue a relationship with Soniye? Just for the heck of it? Even if he had no prior idea.......isn't it cowardly to reject a girl like this by letting her dangle and have "hope." A direct rejection from him would hurt, of course, but she wouldn't have to guess anymore. Avoiding is cowardly......and such a guy may not be able to stand up for his future wife.
I hope what goes around comes around.
Its not like that, he once rejected his another cousin wen his parents forced him for getting engaged, he is not that typical mama boy n stuborn enough to hold his grounds, then his parents didnt force him for doing so. now after 2 yrs they are creating same mess for getting engaged to another cousin. abt which he told me that he has straight away said NO to get married to his cousin. all he says he need some time to get the things settle down at his end
Since we don't know his side of the story, we don't know what happened.
But in the event he now "wants" to be with this other girl.............if he hasn't told Soniye (even out of cowardice)....it's like cheating. And "deviate" is a fancy word for cheating. "Sorry honey....but I deviated when I saw this hot chick. I just didn't tell you about it cuz I didn't wanna hurt you. I was hoping I could continue seeing the hot chick....and continue avoiding you....and that you'd be smart enough to figure things out on your own." Tomato tomaato potato potaato.
To this i wud like to add that during his last days visit, he couldnt gave me much time (As he used to give),also i didnt knw abt his business setting plan , so i got somewhere in ma mind that he is ignoring me wen it comes to the formal proposal issues, n i too started stepping baq from him , he suddenly noticed the change in ma attitude, upon his questions i straight fwdly said wot i feel , I said "I feel u r ignoring me, u must have sumone else in ur life, ur not ready for making a commitment"
then he explained everything abt his business, also added that " u r the only gal in my lyf, thats it, full stop, i dont mind sending my folks to ur place, i just want things to get settled down first, cuz i'll not be here in b/w and i dont want my parents or relatives to get any chance to spoil our relationship"
so wot shud i think now