Re: What shud i do now........? Feeling lost
Koi baat nahin...Kingdom of Nye ke log aise hi hotey hein...
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I wonder what Soniye is going to think when she visits her thread. :P
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This is true...
Pendo...what do you think about this guy? You're a guy so you should be able to tell us if he is full of hot air or not!
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ok Here it goes, what this guy is doing is complete avoidance, he knows that his parents have either a girl waiting for him who is from his family or a relative. He probably dosen't want to let soniye go either because he's having second thoughts, I mean come on soniye 1 year and the parents dont show up! His parents probably told him straight up NO WAY. I mean you say that this guy is seattled and working and can afford a family then why delay this longer, i mean it were me I'd take my parents there right away. Ask him if his parents told him about his wife or if they already have a girl for him. If i were him i wouldn't waste a single second. Chances are that he has seen his cousin/future wife and has fallen for her it can happen, or that he will listen to his mom no matter what if he's the only son then he will definitely listen to his mom.
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Pendo...:)
Soniye......you heard it straight from a guy's perspective.
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Let me go mystic on you, *"Remember soniye, the mind is a shifting entity, when its sustained it deviates and takes for granted."
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LOLLLL
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^ why you laugh thats actually a very good advice.
Pendu,
You think the guy's mom sprung the cousin rishta on him suddenly....like out of the blue??? (I doubt this because usually hints are given for some time). Assuming he did have an idea from way before that his parents were interested in his cousin.....why'd he pursue a relationship with Soniye? Just for the heck of it? Even if he had no prior idea.......isn't it cowardly to reject a girl like this by letting her dangle and have "hope." A direct rejection from him would hurt, of course, but she wouldn't have to guess anymore. Avoiding is cowardly......and such a guy may not be able to stand up for his future wife.
I hope what goes around comes around.
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^Velevet your not thinking this from a male's perspective, A lonely mind conjures up the devil, i think he might have been just using her just for the heck of it and now that he's seen the other girl he's avoiding her because like i said when the mind is sustained it deviates! Its an animal mentality F*ck and forget, not that im saying that soniye did anything like that.
^Velevet your not thinking this from a male's perspective, A lonely mind conjures up the devil, **i think he might have been just using her just for the heck of it **and now that he's seen the other girl he's avoiding her because like i said when the mind is sustained it deviates!
That was a possibility that I had mentioned in my previous post, Pendu. Was he lonely? He was in the same country as her.....she was his girlfriend at the time.....so where's the "loneliness"?
He either:
1) Knew about cousin from way before and wanted to amuse himself with another girl for the "heck of it."
2) Could have genuinely liked soniye.....but then got side-tracked by this cousin and has become more interested in her.
3) He is still attached to Mommy's umbilical cord....and her word is the law.....and he doesn't have courage at all.
Neither of these possibilities is good.
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^Didn't she mention he was away to another country? I think he's can't tell her straight up after all the year of their relationship he's avoiding her and hoping that she'll leave soon enough, I know soniye i've seen many "nice guys" who turn a complete face and talk back about their girlfriends that'll make you cringe! Astagfirullah.
That was a possibility that I had mentioned in my previous post, Pendu. Was he lonely? He was in the same country as her.....she was his girlfriend at the time.....so where's the "loneliness"?
He either:
1) Knew about cousin from way before and wanted to amuse himself with another girl for the "heck of it."
2) Could have genuinely liked soniye.....but then got side-tracked by this cousin and has become more interested in her.
3) He is still attached to Mommy's umbilical cord....and her word is the law.....and he doesn't have courage at all.
Neither of these possibilities is good.
Id say he picked # 2
Id say he picked # 2
Getting into a relationship with another girl when you haven't directly broken it off with your current girl....is a little something.....known as CHEATING. If one is open, honest, and direct about their intentions...........then it is NOT cheating because nothing has been hidden.
Whether he continues to avoid the issue OR decides to "man-up" and tell her that he's moved on..........it's going to hurt Soniye either way. But by being honest with her.......he'll appear less of a jerk.
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^ I wouldn't say he cheated i would say now that he realized that his mom has given him the ultimatum and the other girl is hot he has decided to deviate!
^ I wouldn't say he cheated i would say now that he realized that his mom has given him the ultimatum and the other girl is hot he has decided to deviate!
Since we don't know his side of the story, we don't know what happened.
But in the event he now "wants" to be with this other girl.............if he hasn't told Soniye (even out of cowardice)....it's like cheating. And "deviate" is a fancy word for cheating. "Sorry honey....but I deviated when I saw this hot chick. I just didn't tell you about it cuz I didn't wanna hurt you. I was hoping I could continue seeing the hot chick....and continue avoiding you....and that you'd be smart enough to figure things out on your own." Tomato tomaato potato potaato.
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^ No by deviate i was describing his state of mind. He is not going to feel any remorse towards his because he didn't wanted a full fledged relationship with soniye. So in his mind he doesn't feel the need to come to her or let his parents know about her. He most likely is sustained or happy about the decision his parents gave him. Or i could be entirely wrong and we might be dealing with another mystic.
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I really think he has every intention of making this coming year a bit rocky for soniye.
Listen to these people girl, they know what they're talking about.
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I think some guys eventually feel that its not worth it fighting ones parents ,hence they give in very easily to their wishes, specially if the girl of parents choice is hawwt as well. 
So really, its not a matter of cheating , just pure cowardice and non seriousness ..