Re: What should I do? 
In case you missed it…we’re talking specifically about 2 people (ie. OP and the guy) who have chosen the arranged route. In fact, OP has written that the guy specifically told her that the final decision will be made by elders. So let’s stick to opinions/advice based on the situation OP is in.
I hope you realize this already but this is a RARE thing among desis. Overwhelming majority of us were actually raised by our parents and even when we don’t have a cozy relationship with them…we’re not willing to “send them packing”. Even when things aren’t perfect, we want our parents to be involved in our lives and want to be there for them if/when they need help at an old age. When offering advice, you need to understand what situation the poster is in and whether or not your personal feelings/views even apply to them. Its not necessarily about what you would do…but what’s realistic for the OP based on her specific situation.
Being “independent” does not mean the ability or willingness to kick your parents out of your life. Plenty of people on this forum (men and women) are independent but still maintain a close bond with their parents.
If you were not raised by your parents and you have no problem “sending them packing” if they don’t accept your choices…then that’s great for you. But you must keep in mind that a person going through the arranged rishta route (ie. OP and the guy) clearly care about their parents opinion and will base their decision with the parents approval. So in their case (which btw also happens to be the case for most desis…even the ones in the West)…the feelings/opinions of family members do matter. It matters now and will continue to matter well after the wedding day.