What should I do?

[Sidra_1]

Re: What should I do?

@BusyBee

To be honest, I put up with this because I don’t want a divorce. I can’t imagine myself being divorced and surviving in our two-faced society, I just can’t. And next, the thing is I’ve tried to speak up here and there but it always ends up backfiring. If I even say a word back in normal conversation she accuses me of being badtameez and then hubby tells me “you shouldn’t have”, even though he knows his mom was wrong. It’s like he tells me to speak up, but when I do, he tells me to agree with what ammi says. And honestly, If I knew MIL was gonna stay like this for the rest of my life I was NOT gonna marry him. He used to assure me his mom is a good-hearted person and she’ll change. I, on the other hand, being only 19-20 y/o used to believe him. Also, due to the fact she’s so known in the community for being a pious lady, does dars/taaleem and stuff, I always thought she can never do anything wrong. I always thought she’s doing all this “temporarily” when she used to cause drama before marriage.

If I was you, I’d record her when she’s badmouthing about you, with all the galis and spices. Put it on youtube and send the link through email to all her students and to all those who think that she’s pious.
Throw the party anyways, and take snaps of how fun the party was and send it by mms to her.

Enough to make her furious but at least she’d get the fact that you ain’t submitted to her.