Re: What should I do?
She doesn’t say anything major in front of the guests. She comes up to me and says it politely. But she does say stuff like nikammi, kisi kaam ki nahi, itni moti bhaens hai ke jaldi se utha bhi nahi jaata, etc in front of them but in a joking tone. Usually, the people who find it wrong do come up to me and ask me how can I tolerate it but some people (especially older aunties) laugh it out too.
I actually did go for counseling 2 times and was on anti-depressants for two years too. MIL used to taunt hubby “biwi to pagal hai hi, tumhare bacche bhi pagal niklengen”. She used to say it while laughing. I stopped taking anti-depressants because I was gaining a lot of weight (not good for my PCOS) and I couldn’t deal with being called a “pagal” almost every day.