What should I do?

BusyBee · April 26, 2013, 5:07pm

Re: What should I do?

OP, your life sucks. instead of worrying about small issues like this party, getting yourself depressed, only to see no change in your MIL. it seems like you’ve tried all the usual DIL techniques. why not make a big change? I mean, get a job! Or if your degree right now doesn’t allow u to get a better job or hubby is too proud of his money and MIL doesn’t want community log thinking that DIL is working outside the home, get another degree! go for a masters, go to med school, law school. whatever.

this will allow you to get out of the house, obv without MIL. make your own friends, live your own life, time away from inlaws. it will be something your husband can be proud of you for, something your MIL has no control over, and something that will help you personally in the long run if something horrible happens (divorce, death, etc)

there is NOTHING more powerful than knowledge.

I know my life sucks :(. I’m a people pleaser. Even after MIL says all these things to me, stops answering me, or ignores me, I make extra effort just to please her. So when the aunties in the community who used to tell me that Allah should give everyone a bahu like me, taunt me now for an evil bahu and give me random lectures on how “aaj kal” ki girls are disgrace to pakistani culture that they don’t take care of their in-laws, I feel like crying. I can’t take this negative criticism, especially when I haven’t even done anything they accuse me of.

   I already have a master's degree but hubby doesn't want me to work until AFTER kids....like I'll have more time after kids? He was fine with it, UNTILL his mom threw a fit. So convincing him for the past 6 years hasn't gotten me anywhere so I just gave up on this thought. There's no point in arguing if the end decision is his mom's anyways. Like I said, even if I make new friends, she interferes, goes to their houses without calling and without me. She wants all the numbers of my friends. She doesn't even let me go alone to my Dr. appointments, you think she'll let me go to school?