What should I do?

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Re: What should I do?

@pkgrl000

ughhh i hate to say this but i think OP is just a liar. i have been losing sleep thinking about her horrible situation and what kind of environment her innocent baby will have to deal with (maybe cuz i’m also pregnant), while she seems soo comfortable doing nothing to change her situation and just complaining on GS every now and then. There are SO many contradictions in your story:

1. i don’t care how filthy rich your husband is, there is no way somebody buys two houses, pays mortgage, bills, maintainance on both knowing full well the money is going to waste. either OP is straight up lying or simply exagerating the 2 months that her in-laws spend to be more like 10 months.
2. you had the spine to go against your parents’ wishes and marry your boyfriend. your husband had the balls to do the same. but now all of a sudden you two are little spineless idiots who can’t even utter a word in front of MIL and you are too afraid of getting a divorce because you are scared of what everybody else will think? why didn’t you worry abt that when you were marrying him and ppl scandalizing this love marriage?
3. you have two professional degrees but have hardly used your brain in any of these little battles with MIL. instead of worrying about the bigger picture, i feel like you placed more effort into how to have that dawat without your MIL then the effort you are now putting into making sure your kid is safe and healthy.

i don’t want to be mean to you, but obviously the bundles of love, support, advice you got in the prior 12 pages hasn’t helped you think rationally through this and its making me mad.

@pkgrl000

ughhh i hate to say this but i think OP is just a liar. i have been losing sleep thinking about her horrible situation and what kind of environment her innocent baby will have to deal with (maybe cuz i’m also pregnant), while she seems soo comfortable doing nothing to change her situation and just complaining on GS every now and then. There are SO many contradictions in your story:

1. i don’t care how filthy rich your husband is, there is no way somebody buys two houses, pays mortgage, bills, maintainance on both knowing full well the money is going to waste. either OP is straight up lying or simply exagerating the 2 months that her in-laws spend to be more like 10 months.
2. you had the spine to go against your parents’ wishes and marry your boyfriend. your husband had the balls to do the same. but now all of a sudden you two are little spineless idiots who can’t even utter a word in front of MIL and you are too afraid of getting a divorce because you are scared of what everybody else will think? why didn’t you worry abt that when you were marrying him and ppl scandalizing this love marriage?
3. you have two professional degrees but have hardly used your brain in any of these little battles with MIL. instead of worrying about the bigger picture, i feel like you placed more effort into how to have that dawat without your MIL then the effort you are now putting into making sure your kid is safe and healthy.

i don’t want to be mean to you, but obviously the bundles of love, support, advice you got in the prior 12 pages hasn’t helped you think rationally through this and its making me mad.

Wow, that was hurtful that you called me a liar. What exactly do you think I’m getting out of lying? Is anyone paying me for it? WHY would I lie or exaggerate? And, I come every now and then because I can’t sit on the laptop without my MIL standing next to me asking what I’m doing and who I’m talking to…even if I’m just reading news! I have to wait for friday (when she goes out) or someday when she’s not around, or when I have time from all the house chores. About the contradictions…

1. That IS the thing…my husband is not a millionaire! Yet, they order him to do stuff like he is! He works for two different companies (same job). He didn’t think his parents will come to stay with us for months when he bought them the house. Besides, we used to live in that house in the beginning and then he got a job here and we moved here. He bought a house here because he doesn’t believe in paying “rent” which goes to WASTE. Mortgage doesn’t go to WASTE. Also, we live in Georgia and my in-laws house is in Fl, pretty cheap states to buy houses in compared to others. We’re not THAT rich! And my in-laws ARE here 9-10 months out of the year…I don’t have to lie about that, I’m not getting anything out of it.

2. I didn’t elope with my “boyfriend”. It was a regular wedding, just no one was happy about it. They agreed to do the wedding coz according to them “beta haath se nikal jaata”. My parents agreed coz I told them I won’t marry anyone else. I’m not spineless and my husband isn’t either. I just don’t want things to go out of control. AND, no one scandalized this marriage!

3. I had the dawat when MIL was NOT around. Which brings me to the point that I don’t want things to get out of control in HER presence. You don’t live with her, so you don’t know what happens when she throws tantrums. I didn’t have to place an EFFORT for the dawat. She was out of town and hubby had told me before that I can have it. Besides, I had already called people. Well, that dawat is not even a topic anymore.

I’m thankful for the support and advice but it’s really hurtful for someone to call me a liar when this stuff happens in my life, and on top of it someone tells me I “exaggerate”. Anyways, I do take the advice seriously, but I have to wait for the “right time” to use it coz I’m all alone in this. I can’t do all this at once and blow things up with my husband and MIL so they can kick me out. I just wanna do it in a way that hubby is on my side too.