What should I do?

[BusyBee]

Re: What should I do?

@Sasha21

OP the other house that your husband owns…the one for your in laws but they only live there 2 months out of a year… Is that in the same state or somewhere else. (btw if its far away or in another state then why is that) If its nearby then can’t u move there and sort of just make that yours somehow. And let them be here for 10 months out of the year?

If it’s far away then make ur hubby sell that one and buy something closer, like 15-20 min away. Make up a reason, ofcourse he has to be in on it. Tell him it is too stressful and this is the only thing that u can think of that could be reasonably followed. So he can say he got a good deal on that house and he likes this other house that is closeby and thinks he should get that. And then when the next blow up happens (which is all the time) he can announce that since u r causing so many problems and it is giving his mom high bp, then for his mothers sake he is moving you into that house so his mom can live peacefully and that there is no other way out. He cannot feel relaxed until he feels his mom is really at ease.

Whatever he says make his mom sound like the victim and u the troublemaker. And then just pack ur bags and run. Atleast this way the only issues u will have will be husband spending too much time in other house. But the buffer zone created by seperate houses will hopefully compensate for that and somehow over time and with excuses he can reduce the time spent there ( ur pregnancy issues, dr appt, labour new baby and then home free!). Then maybe u can finally go get ur mail alone.

Ofcourse if the house is faraway then all this will take time but maybe it can work out? This way atleast ur mil will get some sense of control that she got u kicked out ( instead of u kicking her out) and that she somehow is still in her sons house and it won’t be such a big blow. And if he is the one who does all the visiting back and forth it will keep u away from all that and u will be in control of how much u get to meet ur pil.

No, the house is in a different state. About 12 hours from our place. My husband and I used to live there in the beginning of our marriage and then he got a job here. We moved here and my in-laws decided to come over after about 9 months and since then they live here and occasionally go to that other house to “check” on stuff. I can’t move there. The PROBLEM isn’t that they came HERE, the problem is they wanna be with us, coz obviously they’re getting free catering of their needs. If I go to that house, they’ll come there. It won’t end. My MIL is a smart women, she won’t buy any “excuses” and think she kicked me out and all that stuff.
The problem is my husband that he lets them have their way. They have other sons and a daughter and they won’t even dare to stay at their places for more than 2 weeks. I think my husband’s guilty that he married me against their wishes so this is his idea for “making up for it”. He’s said stuff sometimes which makes me think this way. I, on the other hand, let them have their way, because I can’t tolerate people yelling at me, calling me names, and what not. And on top of it, I don’t want hubby to divorce me in the heat of the moment IF things get out of control some day