Apparently hubby’s not eating with me coz MIL told him to bring the food into their room coz she doesn’t wanna give me kaam like setting up the table
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okay then setting up the table is one less thing you have to do. If you had eaten with them, then you’d complain that my hubby only talked to his mom n my mil only talked to him and nobody said much to me. So enjoy the peace and quiet without them, do something productive in that time. Or take ur plate, put on a chirpy smiley face and ask them if you can join in. . But if you think about it, it seems you’d be unhappy either way…whether they include you or not. Joining them would bring a different set of complaints. **Either join or leave em be.
. And even IF she thought that way, they could’ve told me to come in and eat but NO, they just close the door.
Even hubby doesn’t even ask me to come in or he doesn’t even ask if I ate while they were eating inside. He just basically comes into our room when I’m already done with cleaning and in bed.
Ok its your own home. You don’t need a formal invitation. Either go in and sit with them or let it go. Nor are u a little girl that needs to be asked if u’ve eaten. You can get your own food.
I told him it hurts me and he basically said my mom needs my time too.
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Your husband spent time with you while your MIL was away from home. Now she’s back and she’s upset, so let him try to cheer her up. The increased time could be due to him worrying about his mom being upset. **
I don’t know what she’s putting into his head.
You live with your mil, so you should have some idea already about what shes putting in his head. Or maybe he’s trying to calm his mom down. Or they’re discussing other concerns.
He didn’t talk like this before. He used to say things but his tone is completely changed. He even told me the other day “don’t try to boss me, I’m not answerable to you, I’m not your dog”…i was shocked!
Okay that comment is harsh. But give him his space. Pestering him about what he’s doing with his mom will make u appear insecure. Leave him be.
I had only asked him why they closed the door while eating inside…and I asked just casually like I was smiling! I just don’t know what’s wrong.
He’s probably stressed and took out some other frustration on you. Give him space.
He seemed very happy when we found out I’m pregnant but now he doesn’t even say a word since his mom came back.
**Maybe he has a lot on his mind since finding out there’s a baby on the way. **
How can people change to that extreme in matter of couple of days. MIL on the other hand keeps asking me “how I got pregnant NOW”…I just smiled and said Allah ki marzi and she is not buying that answer coz she’s asking me the same question everyday! I don’t know what’s wrong with these people!