What should I do?

[Captain_Obvious]

Re: What should I do?

@IndiGo_Rain

Aulaad Allah ki dain hai. Many times people who don’t want kids and use precautions or can’t have them end up getting pregnant. This baby was meant to happen, no use in lamenting this. Hopefully it’ll bring about a good change.

I do, however, still maintain that she shouldn’t have had the party behind MIL’s back. Yes, I know that many members will say that MIL is gonna act up anyway so why not go and have the party in her absence. Like I said before, it’ll result in MIL striking back even harder …and that is exactly what she’s doing and husband is not helping. The gung-ho advice to have the party was instant gratification in exchange for greater headache. In the grand scheme of things, the party zid was not that big a deal. Had she compromised and waited until MIL returned, it would make her husband see that MIL is the problem because even his wife’s compromise doesn’t improve her nasty attitude. It strengthens bb’s position and makes MIL look bad. And now that she’s pregnant…it’s even more important that she not be stressed out by this vengeful drama as jt can affect the baby. Keeping this in mind, she should just ignore MIL’s schemes and strengthen relationship with husband and pray that Allah keep her baby healthy and safe because sadly there is a jealous, resentful, and unwelcoming attitude toward this unborn child in the home from some parties.

I don’t see how she would have fared any better if she had waited. If after all she’s already described, the husband isn’t seeing that his mother had the wrong position. What would make this any different? You might think that if she keeps giving in things would get better but nothing has changed for the better in years. From what I’ve seen in examples family/family friends, it’s very important to take a stand with something. From what I know of this situation, the party was a great first step. The next step is to show that the emotional blackmail will be ignored and have no effect.