I have this problem that I don’t know what to do …its my husband’s first cousins shaadi in 10 days…my husband’s brother called and told us about it today…and now my husband wants to go but I don’t…and the only reason I don’t want to go is NO ONE called from that family to invite us so we don’t have the right to go…we didn’t even know he was getting married until today…my BIL said they are in a hurry to get married cuz the girl’s father is going to pakistan. I don’t want to go to someone’s wedding without an invitation…hubby is like he’s my first cousin so i have to go..maybe I’m overreacting..I don’t want to make a big deal about this so what should i do?
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Depends on the frankness between two families . He is his cousin so they might be really good friends , and men usually don't care much about formalities . Just call the other family and see if they invite you . But whatever you guys do in the end , make sure do it together . Being humiliated together is more fun (I hope not) :)
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Its your hubby's family, so if he wants to go, then go!
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my dad is same as your husband. He wouldn't bother much.
if it makes him happy then you should go !
.....I don't want to make a big deal about this so what should i do?
You have already made a big deal out of it!!
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Like nomi said , call the family to congratulate them, they should extend an invite then... or indicate something like an invitation .... that should clear up the confusion .. though ... if I were you , I would go ..
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Its your husbands family. Its his cousin. Your his wife, Why exactly would it bother you? Loosen up abit and stop over reacting.
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We put way too much emphasis/importance on ourselves. This is exactly what our beloved prophet s.a.w. taught us NOT to do.
So what if they didn't call you?
You know about the situation now.....call them. Offer the explanation that you found out and are happy for them. I'm sure that this will solicit an invitation and you will no longer be an uninvited guest at the party.
If it were me I would call, congratulate and ask if there is anything that I can do to help with the preparations as they must be run off their feet..........
^ :k:
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I also agree with Muzna..
Just go.. Dont take such small things so heavy.. It's your husbands first cousin.. You cant hold your husband back just because they didnt send you an invi.. Relax.. Just go, congratulate them, help them.. and have fun..
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between us, we have left it to the person of "that side of family" to decide on where to go and what to give. For example (normally) when its some function on my side, its my call and if its from her side, its her call. Logic is I know many things/background/degree of relationship within my family and she knows within her.
So I think your husband is in a better position to decide (as its his cousin). Even then if you are feeling uninvited, just call them or ask your hubby to call (just as Muzna has suggested) and congratulate them and hopefully everything will fall in place.
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Agree with Muzna.
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Totally agree with Muzna :k:
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sometimes these situations do arise, don't worry about it too much go attend and offer your congrats. Not attending will be worse.
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its shadi!.goo!
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I would be royally pissed if my first cousin said I didn't come to your wedding cuz you didn't invite me and my wife. If you can go, definitely go... it will be fun.
Muzna's suggestion is great, make your husband call up his cousin, I'm sure the cousin will ask kay will you be able to make it.... I don't think you need a formal invite.
its the way men are....my husbands the same, so is my dad. i personally wouldnt go, and i would make a point of calling that family and mentioning it.have you told your husband about it.
thing is, its not a big deal really, but its these small things that make people look at you and laugh,we all know how asian families are. these small things actually mean something a whole lot bigger.
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if ur husband and his first cousin are really good mates, etc, then sure he should go. if they havent spoken for a long time and wedding hasnt even been mentioned then maybe think twice.
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NO , you should not go at all and make sure your husband does not go either. How can you stop your husband from going ? By faking sickness. I am sure you know how to do that. You must have done that many times to ditch the school.
He is your husbands first cousin , how dare he did not invite you. In case you do not know how to fake sickness then there is always plan B:
You should start a hunger strike to stop your husband from going to this shadi.
And yes you are making a big deal out of it.
I have this problem that I don't know what to do ...its my husband's first cousins shaadi in 10 days...my husband's brother called and told us about it today...and now my husband wants to go but I don't...and the only reason I don't want to go is NO ONE called from that family to invite us so we don't have the right to go...we didn't even know he was getting married until today...my BIL said they are in a hurry to get married cuz the girl's father is going to pakistan. I don't want to go to someone's wedding without an invitation...hubby is like he's my first cousin so i have to go..maybe I'm overreacting..I don't want to make a big deal about this so what should i do?
Are you for real?
To answer your question, yes you're over reacting and you're making a big deal about it.
We put way too much emphasis/importance on ourselves. This is exactly what our beloved prophet s.a.w. taught us NOT to do.
So what if they didn't call you?
Exactly.
If they're doing hte wedding in a rush, chances are they have much more to worry about than the type of invitation they're giving out.