What should i do?

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Re: What should i do?

Go get a nice outfit, get all dolled up and enjoy yourself.

Life is too short to worry about little things so grab every opportunity you can to have fun.

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Totally agree with the bolded part and the last sentence in general :k:

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Re: What should i do?

I've noticed similar things with some families. They will send out last minute invites and not make clear who exactly is invited from your family and sometimes I don't even see a wedding card (some excuse or other is made like we mailed it to you, didn't you get it? And turns out no one from the groom's side ever got a card...)

Silly. The appropriate thing to do is give an appropriate heads up some months in advance. Send a card. Deliver or mail it. And specify who is invited, spouse, kids?

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At least that's how it's done in our family. No such thing as last minute invites.

This is why weddings get to be expensive. You end up inviting whole families instead of individual people.

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r u guys in the same city???
.... if they are doing wedding in a rush and if first cousin is not even invited then the chances are they are doing very small and probably dont even want you guys to be there.... there has to be some reason? ..... asked ur hubby to find out the reason of no invitations first..

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well if ur hubby is invited than of course ur too .....how can u cant be invited

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yup yup,. stop being a .. ..... !

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thanks guys...i'm definitely making a big deal about this..i was just thinking what if they want a really small wedding and they are not going to invite everyone cuz all of my husband's family live in US...we have to fly over 5 hours to get there so i thought maybe if we were invited they would at least call...my husband and his cousins are not that close...i can say in the 2 years of our marriage they have never spoken on the phone not even once...but its his decision..if he wants to go then we'll go

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We men do not call each other on a regular basis to chit chat, even if we are close friends. We will not call or talk to each other for years but when we meet again it feels like, last we met each other was yesterday.

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While I agree with the comments from many of the posters - I disagree that you should just take it for granted that you were invited.

You say the wedding is five hours away - then it'll cost you to make the trip. So like some of the others have said, call before hand, congratulate them on the upcoming wedding - IF they extend an invitation during the call - go to the wedding - it'll make your husband happy. But, if they've not invited you yet and don't make an effort during the call, I would feel like a bin-bulaya mehmaan.

There is NO excuse for not inviting you when your call gives them a chance to make up for their oversight. Quite frankly, when there is a wedding (in the family or for a friend of) - I'm less concerned with the formal invite, I'd rather get a call to tell me 1) guess what I'm/he's/she's getting married and 2) keep this day free because we want you to come.

You guys live 5 hours away - you've got to make travel and accomodation plans - your host shouldn't take this for granted and you need notice to do so. It's common courtesy.

My cousin invited me to the nikkah and not to the church ceremony - it was not an unintentional oversight - they explained later - they were trying to save on costs.

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Oh....now that makes it a little bit different. In this case, a last-minute invite is quite rude, especially when the relative is not close. I don't blame you for not wanting to attend.