^I'm not trying to invalidate your feelings. I understand you feel offended and I'm not trying to dismiss the issue.
Everybody has their own style of writing and humor. Some write in a more serious tone, others infuse their writing with a lot of sarcasm, some like to use exaggerated humor. PCG has a blunt style of writing.......and those that have been on Gupshup for a long time.......know that she wasn't serious about what she said.
I'll give you an example. PCG recently created a thread about her toxic room mate. And on that thread........several members............including myself (and I'm usually a serious poster) deliberately gave her ridiculous advice to lighten the tension a bit. Some member suggested that she wear a gorilla mask to scare off the room mates........others suggested that she kll her............I jokingly suggested that she flirt with room mate's boyfriend/exhibit room mate as a circus freak at $5 dollars a peek, get some dirt on room mate and black mail her with it.
^But people (those that know me well on GS) know that I'm only being sarcastic. Those that are friends of PCG.......or who have been in the toxic room mate scenario will be more inclined to give her advice that is colored by the remembrance of their own relevant past frustrations. NOW...............if PCG's room mate was to come upon that thread..........and read the ridiculous and exaggerated suggestions............she too would feel offended like you.
I'm not sure but it's possible that maybe PCG didn't know that you were the person that Rasmalai was talking about.
It was an exaggerated post. DO you really think that one would go around spreading rumors about a jamaadarni? And you know Rasmalai better than all of us. Regardless of your issues with her........do you really think that she'd stoop that low and spread such rumors about you? I doubt she or anyone else took the exaggerated suggestion seriously.
I agree to you to a certain extent despite not knowing why, but the fact is, you know her while i don't, and if she replied to you by making a similar post you might have not felt offended and may have thought she's just being sarcastic, at the same time she would also be aware the person she is making the post for will know what to expect from her. sadly I don't know her therefore I did feel offended and at the same time I don't make as ridiculous comments against peeps as she did. as far as she not knowing who Rasmalaai was referring to is concerned, I believe she absolutely did, hence why she made the comment that she did, and if you are friends with her, you will know better if you ask her to confirm it yourself.
She to me is just a walky talky helpless poor soul in real life, sad but true, a saying in urdu pretty much applies pin point in her case "jo baadal garajtey hain woh kabhie barastey nahi" apparently the posts she made about her room mate made me realize just that, how weak she is in real life and cannot find the courage to go up to her room mate and tell her straight forward "I don't want you to lower that temperature knob down to anymore than 50 degrees, period" compared to how easily she comes up on this forum and tells peeps "hey you 2 don't belong together, move on." etc etc
she doesn't know me and I don't know her (nor do i have any interests or intentions of knowing her) she can be a match maker for who ever but to me she is just a nobody. I consider her to be on a path which leads to her being nothing else but unhappy (in reference to the beard thread she made) she is apparently hating on the beard of a Muslim, something that in realistic terms is sunnat (sunnah) in Islam. Point being, she is not entitled to make such ridiculous accusations against anyone she doesn't know or anyone who is not aware of her sarcastic expressions, Period!