ok so most of you might be familiar with this, but this person who once was very close friend of mine, whom I trusted, sold my phone without me knowing a year back. I was supposed to get the phone back this Dec, however we ended all ties and contact due to some personal problems. The question is, do I demand to get my phone back or do I just let it go?
I just wanna know what the right way of going about this situation is. I know it’s just a phone, a materialistic item, but it was my fav phone and the first phone I ever bought with my own money. It bothers me that someone I trusted a whole lot sold it, and now everything has ended so I have no way of ever getting it back.
Sooo should I get it back?!.. or do I just let it go thinking that the money came in use to someone who was “supposedly” in need?!
If you were unable to get it back when you were in a relationship with him, why do you think you're gonna get it back now? I do agree with you, you need to let it go and start the next step in your life.
^ I don't think he's active on this forum anymore, he has like 10 other forums to manage...
Anyways yea I wanna let it go too, but it's easier said then done.
Did you give him the phone (kind of like a gift)? Or did you just let the person borrow it for a while? If you gave it to the person as a gift, then it belongs to him/her, and you'd have no control over what he would do with it. I know that some people return gifts after a relationship has ended...........but not everyone has this mentality. There are people who think that "What's given as a gift should not be demanded back."
On the other hand............if you gave the phone to him/her to borrow.........and he/she sold it without your knowledge...............that's a pretty **LOW/CHEAP **thing to do. And I can understand that you're upset. And people do eventually get what they deserve.
You said that h/she SOLD it and that there's no way of getting it back. So........you know that you have to move on, Rasmalai. Think to yourself that it is benefiting someone who needed it. And besides, how would you get it back from the stranger who is currently using it? Will you pay them more than they paid for it?
Are you sure that the ONLY reason you want the phone back is because you liked it so much? OR.............do you think that there's another underlying reason behind this? For example.........do you harbor a grudge toward the person........and want the phone back because you view his selling of the phone as an attack?
As unfortunate as this incident is.........you learned a valuable lesson from it. You learned to be careful about whom you should trust. It takes many people many many years to learn this. In a way.........the lesson you learned.....has contributed more toward your development as a person than the possession of your phone.
I know it's easier said than done, but move forward. Don't look back. We waste so much of our present time and energy by dwelling on past hurts.........thus making our already short life even shorter (I'm guilty of it as well).
Buy yourself a new and MUCH BETTER phone................because you're a stronger/better person now. Look at it this way.
Just let it go. It's hard not to be angry or want revenge, but I believe from the bottom of my heart that what goes around comes around. This guy will end up paying for his misdeeds in one form or another and you don't have to do anything for that to happen.
Did you give him the phone (kind of like a gift)? Or did you just let the person borrow it for a while? If you gave it to the person as a gift, then it belongs to him/her, and you'd have no control over what he would do with it. I know that some people return gifts after a relationship has ended...........but not everyone has this mentality. There are people who think that "What's given as a gift should not be demanded back."
On the other hand............if you gave the phone to him/her to borrow.........and he/she sold it without your knowledge...............that's a pretty **LOW/CHEAP **thing to do. And I can understand that you're upset. And people do eventually get what they deserve.
You said that h/she SOLD it and that there's no way of getting it back. So........you know that you have to move on, Rasmalai. Think to yourself that it is benefiting someone who needed it. And besides, how would you get it back from the stranger who is currently using it? Will you pay them more than they paid for it?
Are you sure that the ONLY reason you want the phone back is because you liked it so much? OR.............do you think that there's another underlying reason behind this? For example.........do you harbor a grudge toward the person........and want the phone back because you view his selling of the phone as an attack?
As unfortunate as this incident is.........you learned a valuable lesson from it. You learned to be careful about whom you should trust. It takes many people many many years to learn this. In a way.........the lesson you learned.....has contributed more toward your development as a person than the possession of your phone.
I know it's easier said than done, but move forward. Don't look back. We waste so much of our present time and energy by dwelling on past hurts.........thus making our already short life even shorter (I'm guilty of it as well).
Buy yourself a new and MUCH BETTER phone................because you're a stronger/better person now. Look at it this way.
gave it to him to fix, was supposed to get it back in a week, however I was lied to saying it's been shipped when the whole time it was listed on a forum to be sold and it did get sold :( I loved that phone! But I think maybe grudge and revenge are the reasons I want it back. I did want it back when I found out, was pretty hurt, but after a year u do get over the fact that it's gone. But now I feel that I deserve to get it back! I can only tolerate so much. Lesson learned indeed, but I neverrr everr imagined someone selling my phone or any of my personal belongings..who does that? esp coming from someone u trust immensely. Ever since it's ended I've been wanting to seek revenge (like hire gunday to beat him up) and cause him the same amount of pain he caused me, but then I stop myself and realize what good will it bring, temporary satisfaction and then lots of guilt later on?
Aaahhh I wish life had a rewind button!
Aww, is that what your boyfriend ended up doing or did you manage to do something with the local jamadaar of yours who you considered cute? You sure seem experienced by the statement you just made.
Don’t you think the members here are aware of the fact that I did get you the same phone (as was previously mentioned in my post on your other thread) ? why are you just making a mockery out of yourself? if you end up taking it or not, regardless, I would leave it to the person you asked me to give it to, just to lighten the heavy heart I may be currently carrying because of it.
and here’s your phone, 3 of them actually, asked you to choose whichever you like out of the 3, you did choose 1, and was perfectly happy with your choice. the phone yu sent was DOA (Dead on arrival) whereas the one you chose is a perfectly working phone, be grateful kabhie tou!
Aisha Dubaiwaali, the picture you geotagged with in the other post, why was that picture posted? It was the phone I bought a week before just for her. the only reason I didn’t manage to get her the same phone last year was because she cared less about it at that time, so considering her lack of interest I instead bought her a $200 Promise Ring, now technically speaking if i didn’t buy the ring and bought the blackberry 8100 instead I would have literally saved over a $100 by doing that, since a new blackberry 8100 is worth a 100 or $120.
^ Defaming each other on a public forum can get ugly pretty quickly. It just escalates. I think the mods might have to intervene soon. Try talking about issues via PM as opposed to displaying laundry in public.
