I am new to this forum and wants your opinion. My husband has just disconnected communication with me.
Reasons;
He needed some money, i gave him but now when i don’t have i did’nt give him.
He complains of my attitude.
I don’t cook good.
I am also fed up of convincing him again and again. These days i don’t talk to him as well.
Reasons;
He makes female friends on facebook.
He had a secret email id he told me because of some work otherwise he would not have told me, when i asked for pasword he didn’t give me.
A few months back he was cheating on me because of my younger sis, when i got to know from my sis, i fought with him, he stopped coz my sis didn’t response him.but still i feel he likes her at heart and does not like me, more over we all live together. he lives abroad but these days on holiday with us.
He does not care for my needs.
I earn myself as her circumtances are not good as well and bought a new home for us recently.
He says bad words to me like" ma tum per lanat bhajta hu etc"
I m broken at heart and don’t know wat to do. i have one baby to whom he loves very much.
I guess what they say is true... "saali hoti hai aadhi ghar waali" :(
Ewwww....
OP, are there any parents (yours/his) living in the household as well? Why just your sister? And how long have you guys been married?
You said he lives abroad, but comes back to visit, so are you in Pakistan? I'm sorry you're having to go through this, but please, be smart...if he is indeed cheating on you and sleeping with other women (high probability), please get yourself tested for any STD's, last thing you need is to deal with some nasty virus he may pass on to you....good luck
He obviously doesn't like you, doesn't respect you, and doesn't care that you know that he's cheating (by trying to get with your sister), if I were you, I'd want to kill this dude.
Now you have a kid, that complicates this... If you don't want to get a divorce, there are certain steps you can take.
He obviously doesn't like you, doesn't respect you, and doesn't care that you know that he's cheating (by trying to get with your sister), if I were you, I'd want to kill this dude.
Now you have a kid, that complicates this... If you don't want to get a divorce, there are certain steps you can take.
what steps do you think i should take?
Try to save up some money in a secret stash. When you get enough, hire a private investigator in the city your he works in, to follow and track your husband. Ask the private investigator to get good video or photographic evidence of your husband cheating on you. When you get this, email it to everyone in your husband's company with a note attached explaining your situation and and make sure his family see it as well. Then move with your kid to your parents house and see where he takes it from there. If he is truly regretful and wants you back, then offer joint counseling.
Explain the situation to your parents, find out how they feel about it.
Of course the private investigator might discover your husband isn't cheating. In this scenario you lost a bit of money, but gained a lot of comfort so well worth it.
Now you might find these steps a little harsh, but he is putting you in danger of dangerous STD's.
BTW all giving him money does is tell him, he can do whatever he wants (including cheating), and you'll still be there for him. It makes you lose respect in his eyes.
Ask yourself what you would do if you had a daughter and her husband (your son-in-law) wss treating her in the same way your husband is treating you. What would you advise her to do?.. You don't need us to tell you/advise you on what to do. You're old enough to know whats right and wrong; whats acceptable and what isn't; what you can change and what you can't..
Personally, if this was me.. I would get rid of him. It doesn't seem to me like in the 3yrs you have been married to him, he has ever once put you first and thought of your needs before his own. Even as the mother of his child, he still treats you with so much disrespect and cruelty!!.. Men like him never change and you would be a fool to think that one day he would change his ways.
