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Cheat on him back, see how he likes it
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i want to bring him on path. Want him to be good with me, respect me and love me which is impossible for now.
Have you ever confronted him with all ^ this and the rest?
What does he have to say about it?
Why does he need the money?
Has there been any physical abuse involved now or in the past?
Has he always been like this? If not, what do you think could've changed him? Has to be something.
Your treatment towards him?
Did you cook good in the beginning of the marriage?
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P.S: Correction: Only those men who want to change have a chance in doing so, those that don't want to change (or believe they are doing no wrong) are the ones that will never change their ways..
Ask yourself if:
a) **HE **wants to change?
and
b) He acknowledges that the way he is treating you is wrong and this is reflected by the "turbulence" in your marriage.
If the answer to both of these is no, then you need to decide what to do and have the courage to stick to your convictions
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P.S: Correction: Only those men who want to change have a chance in doing so, those that don't want to change (or believe they are doing no wrong) are the ones that will never change their ways..
Ask yourself if:
a) **HE **wants to change?
and
b) He acknowledges that the way he is treating you is wrong and this is reflected by the "turbulence" in your marriage.
If the answer to both of these is no, then you need to decide what to do and have the courage to stick to your convictions
Pretty much this. Keep in mind that if you threaten divorce, he might just say B to calm you down but not really mean it.
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i prefer to consult before taking any big step its sunnah as well.
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How have you two met?
Has he ever been deeply infatuated with you? Have you ever got the sense in the past that he loves you?
Did he always give off this sort of attitude?
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first thing u decide u really want 2 live wth some one
1. who says lanat hai tum pe
2. cheats u
3. only need money from u
4. does not love u
just a question y r u not living wth him abroad?
just for baby u want 2 compromise n live wth such a person just think about this n is he tht man tht u can change him?
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Bro you r like doctor from my home town.
He had same medicine for all diseases, headache, Feeling dizzy, Temperature, Flu, Vomit, Stomache problems, Coughing, Caner, Aids … didnt matter what was the problem he gave his patients the same medicine It tasted like vomit too so i mostly threw it.
Worst part it helped you… u will always get better :s, even if u didnt take the medicine.
Sorry for off topic post.
Do you have kids ?
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Here's a gem of an advice for you:
first you should find out what is the reason for him to cheat you, if there are some drawbacks in you,then try to remove that and try to bring him back because respect in society is with husband and also good for children but if you are not at mistake and all your tries fail then you must not stay with him. May GOd bless you.
PS: You're doing alright bro.
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yes pakilarka i have a baby
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yes pakilarka i have a baby
Then please dont say "JUST" for baby. Babies rnt "JUST" they are almost everything for you and they are the base of all your major and minor decisions.
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i didnt meant that think about that baby wht will he c when he grows up just think of atmosphere i meant dont compromise wth that kind of a man
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Why are you advocating divorce?
To the OP:
Stay with him, have more babies…maybe after seeing all 8 of his kids he will realize he truly loves you and change his ways. Until then, you will have to work and support yourself, him, your baby and all future babies.
Becaaaaaaaause he is the mans.
Usually this happens after about 6 years of marriage so you have only 3 more to go.
Good luck.
p.s. - maybe you could have a dawat for his mistress and show him you truly love him and will do anything to make this marriage work.
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Pokenem,
Ask yourself what you would do if you had a daughter and her husband (your son-in-law) wss treating her in the same way your husband is treating you. What would you advise her to do?.. You don't need us to tell you/advise you on what to do. You're old enough to know whats right and wrong; whats acceptable and what isn't; what you can change and what you can't..
Personally, if this was me.. I would get rid of him. It doesn't seem to me like in the 3yrs you have been married to him, he has ever once put you first and thought of your needs before his own. Even as the mother of his child, he still treats you with so much disrespect and cruelty!!.. Men like him never change and you would be a fool to think that one day he would change his ways.
Get rid and the sooner you do it, the better..
Good luck with whatever you decide to do..
I totally agree with above. Just want to add one more thing...if you are not happy with him and he doesn't change ..(which I am sure he will not)...it will do more harm than any good for you child and you. I don't know how strong of a person you are but this type of relationship is like a cancer...for you and your future...if he can hit on your sister...he is capable to do anything....you are financially stable...young...be strong and leave him...it is only 3 year of your life you wasted with him...accept it and live for your child...leave him for your child...you want your child to be raised in +ve state of mind.
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You don't want to be one of those old women filled with regret 30 years down the line Pokenon. Any momentary pain you feel now when you split with this guy will be nothing compared to what you will feel later if you stay.
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BTW, guess who will be your kids #1 role model later on if you don't rectify the situation fast? Their cheating dad. Yes they'll probably learn many things about how a man should treat his wife from him.
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May be slaping him hard is a good idea... He deserves that..
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Meet him at the airport next time he comes back with a bat to the face.
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It’s interesting how each of the above posted reasons are topics of life one threads of the recent past.
nice one :k:
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hes a not a being a nice a to a you. A divorce him (borat style)