It takes a lot of work to look happy right in the middle of argument if someone sees what is happening.
As a man I can tell you that goes a long way in building relation if woman just stops and keeps a happy face. It shows she cares and how he must do something to match.
yar... we need MORE men like you on earth!!! sigh ... trust me, you need alot of courage to put up a brave face and smile in frnt of the world even if you have had an argument watever!!
Re: What not to do
Its such a turn off when someone complains of other's 'action' regardless how sincere it would be.
For example: The man holds her and she says be gentle! Poor guy just gets embarassed.
Other example: She cooks something and he says: "could you not put some salt in it?"
Its such a turn off when someone complains of other's 'action' regardless how sincere it would be.
For example: The man holds her and she says be gentle! Poor guy just gets embarassed.
Other example: She cooks something and he says: "could you not put some salt in it?"
yup! just put the damn salt in! but dun mind the complaining bit ... if u r actually hurting her by huggin way too tite or whatever... let her b vocal abt it yar! after all shes 'nazuk' no matter what her size is :)
No details on public forum that i can share with you but I never had done such a thing.
Only thing one can do to be non verbal reconciliation.
Meaning complement at a later time without being so obvious and not showing you are making up for last mistake.
Hope you got the point.
yup! just put the damn salt in! but dun mind the complaining bit ... if u r actually hurting her by huggin way too tite or whatever... let her b vocal abt it yar! after all shes 'nazuk' no matter what her size is :)
But she is not gonna break in to pieces. He just might be too happy or emotional. need to learn a bit so what.
Uh, somehow I think we’re talking about two different things. What I asked was something that can be easily discussed on a public forum. Hopefully, we’re on the same page here. 
But she is not gonna break in to pieces. He just might be too happy or emotional. need to learn a bit so what.
yeah but still... dun mind if she tells u so!! btw, just curious... are u married?
yar... we need MORE men like you on earth!!! sigh ... trust me, you need alot of courage to put up a brave face and smile in frnt of the world even if you have had an argument watever!!
One time I parked at a parking spot and next to me in a car saw this woman tears in her eyes and was crying. The man was quiet next to her.
I got out of my car and she said to the man
"Honey let me close the window the wind is making my eyes wet".
I just walk away quickly pretending I did not even hear that.
Its difficult but she saved him from embarassment.
yeah but still... dun mind if she tells u so!! btw, just curious... are u married?
Yes. Been single for a good while before.
Stop hitting your forehead so much. It will develop a bump! (J/K)
LOL!! 
awww thaz sweet. i hope ‘yeh sari tricks aap nay begum sahiba pe bhi apply ki hongi’ you seem like a nice guy.. ab zyada sar pe nahi chadna 
Re: What not to do
Other thing one must not do is not communicating.
Meaning. he or she has a doctor appointment and just announces that day an hour before the appointment and ask other person to take care of some important business.
Thats not good. Plan ahead. Mark the calender.
Worst is ' 'Oh i forgot to tell you, my mother is coming tomorrow to stay"
I am no expert. I am working on finding out what made her angry this week. Will get the answer soon.
BTW: All the scientific studies show married men live longer. So I will live long I know like other married guys out there. The study should tell how they die though. Perhaps curiosity kills them fast. They all die trying to find out what makes wives happy.
ok now enough of all the points to make men happy. some pointers to make her happy:
1) pls do compliment her, if not always then atleast when she dresses up really nicely to go out somwhere or she cooks somethin really nice. u dun realise women are absolute suckers for this... (i keep tellin my hubs that i can dance on his finger tips if he learns the art of appreciation!)
2) Never ignore her when youre in a crowd. even if ure with ur parents or siblings or relatives whatever, dont talk to them and ignore her. involve her in what youre talkin about. u cud talk and between say (her name).. isnt it true... or haina (name). it goes a long way plus it shows the person in frnt you value her inputs too or u tell her stuff.
3) i m against PDA but lil bit of it is gud. i dun mean u shud b over each other.... but sitting next to each other is fine too. plus when she talks, you listen to her intently. ppl will notice how intently you are listnin to your wife.
4) say SORRY when u r in the wrong. this is somethin every guy needs to learn!
5) You can easily manipulate women with your sweet words, gifts etc. learn this art and i promise you, she'll be all yours.
6) and please dont think she is DUMB... yeah, she is a bit inferior to you, maybe brain wise cus Allah has made us that way plus u guys are way too intelligent. but that dusnt mean we are any less than you... that we dont have feelings and dun have life of our own! learn to respect the wife's opinions. if u dun agree with it. just say ok honey, u r rite but i was thinkin..... thaz the best way to let her know u ATLEAST consider her opinion. never say ure dumb or u dunno anything! pay heed to her advice. remember she is the best in maintaining relationships!!
7) learn to sacrifice for her too sometimes. we deserve happiness too... sometimes u have to do somethin we love and u hate...
i cud go on and on... but for now this is it. all kinds of feedback welcome :)
ok now enough of all the points to make men happy. some pointers to make her happy:
1) pls do compliment her, if not always then atleast when she dresses up really nicely to go out somwhere or she cooks somethin really nice. u dun realise women are absolute suckers for this... (i keep tellin my hubs that i can dance on his finger tips if he learns the art of appreciation!) 2) Never ignore her when youre in a crowd. even if ure with ur parents or siblings or relatives whatever, dont talk to them and ignore her. involve her in what youre talkin about. u cud talk and between say (her name).. isnt it true... or haina (name). it goes a long way plus it shows the person in frnt you value her inputs too or u tell her stuff. 3) i m against PDA but lil bit of it is gud. i dun mean u shud b over each other.... but sitting next to each other is fine too. plus when she talks, you listen to her intently. ppl will notice how intently you are listnin to your wife. 4) say SORRY when u r in the wrong. this is somethin every guy needs to learn! 5) You can easily manipulate women with your sweet words, gifts etc. learn this art and i promise you, she'll be all yours. 6) and please dont think she is DUMB... yeah, she is a bit inferior to you, maybe brain wise cus Allah has made us that way plus u guys are way too intelligent. but that dusnt mean we are any less than you... that we dont have feelings and dun have life of our own! learn to respect the wife's opinions. if u dun agree with it. just say ok honey, u r rite but i was thinkin..... thaz the best way to let her know u ATLEAST consider her opinion. never say ure dumb or u dunno anything! pay heed to her advice. remember she is the best in maintaining relationships!! 7) learn to sacrifice for her too sometimes. we deserve happiness too... sometimes u have to do somethin we love and u hate...
i cud go on and on... but for now this is it. all kinds of feedback welcome :)
Great points. No doubt.
All these points make sense and when both man and woman think he or she deserves more than other the problem starts.
ok now enough of all the points to make men happy. some pointers to make her happy:
1) pls do compliment her, if not always then atleast when she dresses up really nicely to go out somwhere or she cooks somethin really nice. u dun realise women are absolute suckers for this... (i keep tellin my hubs that i can dance on his finger tips if he learns the art of appreciation!) 2) Never ignore her when youre in a crowd. even if ure with ur parents or siblings or relatives whatever, dont talk to them and ignore her. involve her in what youre talkin about. u cud talk and between say (her name).. isnt it true... or haina (name). it goes a long way plus it shows the person in frnt you value her inputs too or u tell her stuff. 3) i m against PDA but lil bit of it is gud. i dun mean u shud b over each other.... but sitting next to each other is fine too. plus when she talks, you listen to her intently. ppl will notice how intently you are listnin to your wife. 4) say SORRY when u r in the wrong. this is somethin every guy needs to learn! 5) You can easily manipulate women with your sweet words, gifts etc. learn this art and i promise you, she'll be all yours. 6) and please dont think she is DUMB... yeah, she is a bit inferior to you, maybe brain wise cus Allah has made us that way plus u guys are way too intelligent. but that dusnt mean we are any less than you... that we dont have feelings and dun have life of our own! learn to respect the wife's opinions. if u dun agree with it. just say ok honey, u r rite but i was thinkin..... thaz the best way to let her know u ATLEAST consider her opinion. never say ure dumb or u dunno anything! pay heed to her advice. remember she is the best in maintaining relationships!! 7) learn to sacrifice for her too sometimes. we deserve happiness too... sometimes u have to do somethin we love and u hate...
i cud go on and on... but for now this is it. all kinds of feedback welcome :)
Loved the way you talk and suggests!
Its such a turn off when someone complains of other's 'action' regardless how sincere it would be.
For example: The man holds her and she says be gentle! Poor guy just gets embarassed.
Other example: She cooks something and he says: "could you not put some salt in it?"
That would be fine if he does **so, I know how much blood it increase!
BUT com'on guys don't live in bollywood.. That's real life.... He can be embarassing, he can be loud.. just like you (we too can behave oddly at times) Just simple ignore:)
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Here's one thing not to do...
never ever ever tell him "Honey its just a game" when his team loses...come to think about it even when his team wins!!
I am no expert. I am working on finding out what made her angry this week. Will get the answer soon.
BTW: All the scientific studies show married men live longer. So I will live long I know like other married guys out there. The study should tell how they die though. Perhaps curiosity kills them fast. They all die trying to find out what makes wives happy.:(
Ok a tip....women get angry for all reasons...sometimes you just dont wanna know! Best solution...apologise in advance or belated for whatever you may or may not have done!
Another thing...married men dont actually live longer...It just feels like they live longer:D
6) and please dont think she is DUMB... yeah, she is a bit inferior to you, maybe brain wise cus Allah has made us that way plus u guys are way too intelligent. but that dusnt mean we are any less than you... that we dont have feelings and dun have life of our own! learn to respect the wife's opinions. if u dun agree with it. just say ok honey, u r rite but i was thinkin..... thaz the best way to let her know u ATLEAST consider her opinion. never say ure dumb or u dunno anything! pay heed to her advice. remember she is the best in maintaining relationships!!
Really? Hmmm! Thats really generalising I think.
Re: What not to do
dont smother your partner....spend time as a couple but also give your partner space so that they can have some time alone or with friends. Especially in the case where the couple is young....they need time to grow as an individual.