What not to do

Lifestyle Relationships
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Please share with us what not to do with our partners so we can can make our life partners happy.

This will help a lot of people. Feel free to explain why.

Thanks.

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ahhh.. the million dollar qs. if all of us knew what ticked our spouses and vice versa, all of us will b so happy! i think these are a must if u wanna keep ur hubby happy:

1) NEVER argue when he is angry.
2) When he says leave the room, u leave the room. Let him cool off
3) Sacrifice... sacrifice...sacrifice
4) Love his family, ur MIL, BIL, FIL... anybody he loves alot
5) B respectful towards him.
6) Do what he asks u to do first, then question.

Oh well, the list is endless... i can go on and on. but this pretty much sums up what I do! :)

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don't keep repeatedly questioning him aobut something if he does not want ot answer

dont disrespect him or his family using harsh words

don't talk to him in strained tone. if you are in a not so good mood or if you are angry with him do not talk to him then.

don't say anything even remotely negative about his mother in front of him.

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Re: What not to do

never and i mean never lie, ( i learnt it the hard way ).

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don't hold grudges about things. sometimes you have to let it go even i fyou feel somesthing unfair or unjust was done to you.

don't keep bringing up stuff that he did or said to you that even he knows was wrong to keep embarassing him.

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Don't repeatedly ask him a question if he doesn't want to answer it.
Don't repeatedly demand for anything if he is not happy to give it to you.

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haaah! yeah like sona.

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u got it BANG ON, girl!!!!! unfortunately, these are things that a TYPICAL paki guy wud want. now now, guys, pls dun come running after me with a hammer. It is not to say that all paki guys are like that! But as per my experience, this is what i have witnessed in Pak and UAE. I must tell u though, most American Pakis are pretty gud husbands as compared to Paki born counterparts! Makes me wish i had married American ;) hehehe.
just yesterday my husband was damn pissed at me askin qs when he was not willin to tell me. it drives me crazy that u start and suddenly decide not totell the entire story!! oh... and we all know how crazy mad psycho they all become when u even dare to say somethin -ve abt his mom...!!!!

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Agree.

Trust and Respect - a way to build a gr8 relationship :k:

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Grest response.

The man has responsibilities as well. A happy woman at home means a peaceful night and day. :)

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thanks practice make perfect

and i have A LOT of practicing to do. LOL

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:) I only wish women were not so moody and emotional. But may be that makes things a bit challenging to work for.

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Yep. Lying ruins everything.

Even when you never lie again. First lie keeps haunting you.

So never ever lie. Admit past relations and tell they are over. Work hard to build relation.

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All those points are good and valid.

A man is sometimes angry for whatever reason. If she just does something including whatever it takes to pop the angry bubble or balloon, it goes a long way.

He will always remember such a great response.

Hope this works for angry or upset women.

Both men and women look for other person to make the first move.

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So far, very good things have been pointed out about what-not-to-do to our men, i.e. disrespect to his elders, unnecessary interogation, etc. I guess another one is don’t be too clingy! Give him space, let him have guys’-night-out. Don’t expect him to spend all his time with you.

Now for girls :halo: :

  • No matter how angry you get, it’s absolutely unacceptable to tell your wife/partner off in front of others.
  • Ignoring - phone calls, questions - very degrading
  • Ridiculing her in front of friends and family

Okay that’s all I can think of now. :slight_smile:

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Thats great.

I think degrading your partner in front of anyone is big no no.

Arguing in public is also not good.

Sometimes it is difficult to avoid however if it is done with low inconspicuous voice and has short conversation then its Ok. Waiting till one gets home could be difficult.

But respect for each other is absolutely necessary.

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Oh, don't even get me started on arguing in public!! Women that are drama queens make me really angry. Immature, aggressive men also make me quite angry - it's like you don't need to tell the entire world how pathetic you and your relationship is!

For those drama kings/queens: If you can't wait to get home, get in the car but do yourselves a favour and save yourself from public humiliation by keeping your mouth shut!

I've seen far too many couples who think it's cool to either make fun of each other in public OR who like to tell the entire world how 'happy' they are together. Ughh, makes me soo mad.

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hmmm... i am guilty of arguing in public... n cryin too! but its not easy as it sounds... its difficult to control ur emotions when u r fighting. sometimes somethin or some topic comes up and the next thing u know ure arguing, he asks u to shut up but u go on and on cus ure so hurt u wanna know why why why!!! but i agree its not gud to fight in public :)

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Agree.

But. Sometimes the emotions are so strong that one cannot wait. if few sentences are said and warning is fgiven and understood then it works out good.

But showing off how happy you are. Why should it bother you?

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mall :hugz:

I like how you responded. You weren’t defensive, and simply admitted it. :slight_smile: I respect that.

And thanks for explaining - people always say there are two sides of the story. So it’s good to hear the other perspective.

Hun, just try to control it next time - seriously, I think it’s like adding fuel to the fire. Something already happened that partners didn’t agree upon - public scenes just add insult to injury. and then people forget about the main issue, all they can think about is the embarrassment and humiliation that resulted from it.