What more could you want in a partner?

[blessed2006]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

@Sehrysh

Say you have two nice people, decent, normal, not too much drama in their lives.

Compatible education, background, religious values and the families like one another. So far so good and sounds great on paper.

But is this enough to enter into a relationship or should there be more and what is that “more”?

the actual likeness for your partner.

[Spock]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

@BlueBells

Sparks? So what’s supposed to happen? Fireworks? Hyperventilation? GooGoo-GaaGaa?
Frankly speaking I don’t understand this whole hype about fireworks but here’s my take on this topic.
When a guy or a girl reaches that age where he/she thinks, “aright I’m done with this celibate life I got going and it’s time to step up the game and get married”

Boring but acceptable… No qualms…

then it wouldn’t hurt to give a serious thought to what kind of qualities you’d want in your partner. If you’ve reached this point then you probably have a good idea about yourself, the kind of people you can get along with and what sort of person would make a compatible spouse and would make you happy.

These can be any qualities depending on what you prefer. Be it family, ethnicity, looks, religion, education, finances, looks,shapes, sizes,cooking skills (I chose a guy who can cook well-compliments of the dorm room lifestyle). Anything!

Yes, this is what I was referring to as sparks. These qualities, that ignite them.

You should have a fairly decent idea of what you want to get yourself into.
Now if you come across someone who fits 90% of the list and the rest 10 is something you can be flexible about then go for it ( I know it’s not all precisely proportionate like that but you know what I mean).
Key is to know what you want and know what you can be a little flexible with. You can have a decent conversation with this guy and feel an attraction towards him then that’s good enough . Don’t reject a decent rishta because you’re not getting them fancy ‘sparks’ and aren’t completely in love with him. People can fall out of love just like they can fall in love. There are a lot more bases to cover besides the spark part.

Not everyone is lucky to fall in love, and it takes more than just sparks to fall in love, but in this day and age, and with our backward arranged marriage route, true love is just not a possibility, for the majority so what you described above is the correct route, i.e. ascertaining if the person has the qualities, rather than just looking for family comparability and all that jazz.

[Reha]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

Ive seen exactly how far family background, race, ethnicity, zaat, etc matters…in the end I dont think it actually matters much at all.

What does matter is how the two people jive.

[girl_on_ice]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

nothing matters except kismet..
you could be madly in love,arranged married or just met by chance
but if fate gives you a hard time its your perseverence that will get you thru the tough times in a marriage
not love money family
long live selflessness,patience and compromise…from both partners

[CM]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

@Sehrysh

Say you have two nice people, decent, normal, not too much drama in their lives.

Compatible education, background, religious values and the families like one another. So far so good and sounds great on paper.

But is this enough to enter into a relationship or should there be more and what is that “more”?

You and partyslims should get hitched already.

[Jaanwar]

Re: What more could you want in a partner?

^ Word.