What more could you want in a partner?

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Re: What more could you want in a partner?

@BlueBells

Sparks? So what’s supposed to happen? Fireworks? Hyperventilation? GooGoo-GaaGaa?
Frankly speaking I don’t understand this whole hype about fireworks but here’s my take on this topic.
When a guy or a girl reaches that age where he/she thinks, “aright I’m done with this celibate life I got going and it’s time to step up the game and get married”

Boring but acceptable… No qualms…

then it wouldn’t hurt to give a serious thought to what kind of qualities you’d want in your partner. If you’ve reached this point then you probably have a good idea about yourself, the kind of people you can get along with and what sort of person would make a compatible spouse and would make you happy.

These can be any qualities depending on what you prefer. Be it family, ethnicity, looks, religion, education, finances, looks,shapes, sizes,cooking skills (I chose a guy who can cook well-compliments of the dorm room lifestyle). Anything!

Yes, this is what I was referring to as sparks. These qualities, that ignite them.

You should have a fairly decent idea of what you want to get yourself into.
Now if you come across someone who fits 90% of the list and the rest 10 is something you can be flexible about then go for it ( I know it’s not all precisely proportionate like that but you know what I mean).
Key is to know what you want and know what you can be a little flexible with. You can have a decent conversation with this guy and feel an attraction towards him then that’s good enough . Don’t reject a decent rishta because you’re not getting them fancy ‘sparks’ and aren’t completely in love with him. People can fall out of love just like they can fall in love. There are a lot more bases to cover besides the spark part.

Not everyone is lucky to fall in love, and it takes more than just sparks to fall in love, but in this day and age, and with our backward arranged marriage route, true love is just not a possibility, for the majority so what you described above is the correct route, i.e. ascertaining if the person has the qualities, rather than just looking for family comparability and all that jazz.