Re: What is with all the boys??
lets address this issue, it simply can not be the same, it cant be, it is impossible. I am not talking about its not possible to be romantic, but its not possible to do the exact same things, spend the exact same time etc.
several factors, u grow older, and your preferences of what u consider romantic change, the time that you have available changes.
Before we got married, I wrote a song for begum, to music that a good pal had written, I performed it at a show. now if she wants me to do another song, I have to find someone who I can sit with and try and work with melodies, and which show would I perform at now? I have not performed at a show in a decade, I moved on. If she were to expect something like that it would be unreasonable. luckily she does not.
This is an example, so being romantic is shown in different ways. even what we were able to do as a married couple a few years ago is very tough now because of kids, we cant just jump on a plane and go away, its tougher on us, its even tougher on kids. everything requires more planning so the spontaneity is reduced it simply is not possible.
As I see a friend of mine struggle with his divorce whose wife was more than happy to buy designer items, have a maid, take expensive vacations, drive expensive cars that his job paid for, a job for which he had to travel several days a week out of town and work long hours. In her bollywood mind, they needed to be like her heroine in the movies, well in the end she hooked up with some dude at work and eventually got caught. her complaint, husband was not romantic..well u took 3 vacations in one year, and then a handful of weekend getaways..he bends over backwards for you, anything u want he gets. takes u out every weekend, what is it that u want. I am so glad he kicked her punk ass to teh pavement.
so ladies, while there may be men who stop being romantic, and in some cases the overt expression of romance decreases, but focus on quality vs quantity would help, also being realistic will help.
Phew, big quote. Still learning to edit to only what I need.
You are absolutely right X2. With time you get greater responsibility, kids come into the picture, you don't have that much freedom either, with them around, basically, real life kicks in.
But I believe that inside all of us is the desire to feel young again and go through some moments and gestures of romance again. As long as we continue to strive toward that as a couple, take out time once in a while for each other, and from time to time remind each other or suprise each other with the QUALITY of our committment and love, we should be fine. Yes, quantity may be reduced because of the above mentioned factors. But we should be mature enough to realize that.