Is it love? trust? compromise?
Is it always the woman who compromises?
Does a man have an “easy deal” with marriage?
How can one steer a marriage through trouble spots?
Any advice would be helpful for a lost soul
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
Seek Allah's help when you feel lost.
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
what i have learned its TRUST. Other factors like love and compromise follows autmatically if you TRUST your spouse.
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
Recipe to successful marriage is that you DONT read Nadz threads 
Sorry bad joke I am out 
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Hahahahaha, very funny.
can i ask why......:
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
Deen
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nadz, i dont get it either. I like your posts. They are always so informative.
Deen, hmmm...that's what my fiance says too. He is alot more religious than I and I am worried there will be huge clashes in the marriage.
I just dont want to be regretting and crying for the rest of my life.
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^^ one hundred percent agreee with you.
Follow your Deen. Deen e Islam (Not the Modern Day deen where you pick and choose, Follow the Deen of the Prophet SAW and his Companinons, and if one is weak in Understanding Deen then Seek Help and guidence from a Authentic Aalim) and if you follow it 100% and then if you have a problem .. you can prescribe any punishment you want on me ..
Two people get married, and both are needed to steer it and keep it in the positive direction. Your husband will teach you and in return you share your knowledge. This is called respect which melts into love. See how beautiful our deen is.
*time to plug my thread here: http://www.paklinks.com/gs/video-gallery/381136-solemn-vows-marriage-among-companions.html * :halo:
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Yes, but I feel slightly weird when I read the Hadith that if a women was allowed to prostrate in front of any man (other than Allah) it would be her husband.
I know this sounds wrong and I dont mean to be blasphemous but my husband to be does not deserve that kind of treatment at all :S
Yes, but I feel slightly weird when I read the Hadith that if a women was allowed to prostrate in front of any man (other than Allah) it would be her husband.
I know this sounds wrong and I dont mean to be blasphemous but my husband to be does not deserve that kind of treatment at all :S
This is a whisper from shaytan. Let's build up our basic knowledge of deen first then we can get into these trivial matters like these (which are for the most part not for us, leave it to the scholars)..
Don't let shaytan pollute your thinking, insh'Allah everything will work out.
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^^^^ thats right...i second that..
The way to a man's heart is through his TUMMY!!!
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
Deen and Children.
Yes, but I feel slightly weird when I read the Hadith that if a women was allowed to prostrate in front of any man (other than Allah) it would be her husband.
I know this sounds wrong and I dont mean to be blasphemous but my husband to be does not deserve that kind of treatment at all :S
from my point of view-
only if a husband fulfils all his duties and responsibilities and give her all the rights prescribed by Islam and treats his wife the way our beloved Prophet (PBUH) has treated his wives.
If both husband and wife follow deen (not just one) then i dont think any marriage would fail.
^^^^ thats right...i second that..
The way to a man's heart is through his TUMMY!!!
I dont agree
from my point of view- only if a husband fulfils all his duties and responsibilities and give her all the rights prescribed by Islam and treats his wife the way our beloved Prophet (PBUH) has treated his wives. If both husband and wife follow deen (not just one) then i dont think any marriage would fail.
Thats very true. Very well said diamond.
I read Surah Nisa and there is a huge responsibility on the man when it comes to looking after his wife yet everyone focuses on the one line which says 'beat them lightly if they disobey'.
I think deen is very important but day to day reality is different. My hubby to be isnt working yet but is still studying. He is trying so hard to make something of himself and I appreciate him so much because of that but the fact that he isnt earning also sours things between us.
He keeps saying I need more deen and faith in Allah. PLUS he wants to have children pretty much straight away but I really dont :(
Thats very true. Very well said diamond.
I read Surah Nisa and there is a huge responsibility on the man when it comes to looking after his wife yet everyone focuses on the one line which says **'beat them lightly if they disobey'. **
I think deen is very important but day to day reality is different. My hubby to be isnt working yet but is still studying. He is trying so hard to make something of himself and I appreciate him so much because of that but the fact that he isnt earning also sours things between us.
He keeps saying I need more deen and faith in Allah. PLUS he wants to have children pretty much straight away but I really dont :(
if we go deeper into this statement it puts a certain restrictions also that beating shd be such as the bone shd not break , there shdnt be any scar and there shd be no damage to flesh too. This implies as if you are allowed to hit your wife with cotton balls thats it.
well if he isn't earning enuf or hasn't started earning as yet how will he feed you and baby both. I assume you are not working....
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no, i will be working once I get married InshAllah.
Basically, my parents really liked his personality and closeness to Deen. True, he has transgressed in the past but he is so keen to be on the straight path now.
His mother has already said to my mother that the first three years of marriage will be very difficult for me and I have to be very patient. I've always had everything handed to me on a plate so my patience levels are pretty low. I am so dreading married life but then, I can't imagine marrying anyone else because of the strength of feeling I have for him and the fact that he loves his religion/culture/roots.
I wouldnt want to marry someone too modern either because my children wouldnt be raised appropriately.
I really need to start praying 5 times.
Re: What is the recipe to a successful marriage?
Shan masaley is the best recipe to successful marriage