For the past couple of days, i have been thinking about this question a lot
In this feminist world no one gives a damn about us or maybe socially and culturally we can say that we have been overlooked
Being a man, I am always expected to be perfect. To be flawless. To exceed expectations. To have solutions to problems. To know the answer to everything. we are human beings. As human beings, we feel lost, afraid, insecure, weak at times. But because we are taught to deny these weaker part of ourselves it leads to a whole laundry list of problems in us because if we can’t empathize with ourselves how are we going to empathize and establish meaningful relationships with others?
An example I would like to share: so at work I was working with my female colleague and I work more than her and I am more dedicated towards work but this has been overlooked and always the boss gives her appreciation rather than me…Also, one I had an argument with her I am not saying I was not wrong maybe I was but she was also wrong but in the end, I had to say sorry to her because she was the female as she started to cry for no reason at all
Do you guys also think the same or I have been thinking too much
As a guy you’re supposed to pretend you got your sh!t together and that you’re really apathetic about anything, you gotta be cool and nonchalant at all times.
Crying as a manipulation tactic, I have seen girls use it to gain sympathy from other females as well. I think you should speak up Waleed, address your concerns to your boss if you can.
As far as what is the hardest thing about being a man, I think it is the societal pressure of having to be in control of your emotions at all times even if you are going through a very stressful period in life.
Woke up at 03.18 AM and read this thread. Frankly I feel in the same way. People around me think I am always in the control, I know all the answers and I can solve any problem. My female colleagues cannot see that dodgy alcoholic patient as they are afraid so I have to see him. They won’t home visit in a run drown area with a bad reputation so I will have to do that. I am the man so I am supposed to stay late and deal with piles of paperwork that has been building up for weeks. As I am a man, I am single and do not have a family so I am always the one who stays behind late to deal with hospital letters, blood results, scans etc etc etc.
I have to go to regional meetings as a man is supposed to be taken more seriously and my suggestions or comments will be heard (?). I have to deal with the inspection teams and answer their queries as for some reason I am more ‘suited’ for this role (!) I am also expected to deal with management issues more so than my female colleagues.
In my personal life, I have to be the one to make the first move. I have to take care of her emotions and make sure she does not get hurt in any way because of my words or actions. I am considered immune to my partner’s scolding and hurtful words. I have to ‘manage’ her mood swings, her PMS, her whining about migraines, period pains and her various problems at her work and issues with her girlfriends.
I agree it’s tough to be a man in this World but not many people realise that.
What’s worse is that your coworkers likely want “equal pay” yet don’t want to do equal work. That’s you rarely see feminists talking gender equality in tough professions like construction, mining, farming, or even janitorial work. Those jobs are beneath them, gender equality is important in office jobs or high paying careers.
In every profession people who put in the most time and take the most risks get paid the most. Men generally clock in the most hours and are bigger risk takers which is why they make more money, there isn’t any systemic discrimination preventing women from making more money.
Feminism is used by many when it suits their agenda. Did you read about the bloke who was almost constantly pastured for sex by a woman through text messages and when he finally gave in to her demands she cried rape! He remained on bail for two years and lost his job, his reputation tarnished and career destroyed.
Sad thing is the Police had record of her text messages but will hide them from his defence team knowing fully well he was innocent but still did their best to get an innocent man convicted for a rape crime that he did no do as its reflects positively on their force and pleases the mainstream feminist groups.
And the most frustrating part is even when the case against him has collapsed, his false accuser is still enjoying anonymity and not been prosecuted by the authorities.
I grew up with tons of girls (relatives, friends, neighbours, classmates, etc.) and still have some female friends/relatives/colleagues with whom I interact with. They were/are all normal except for a very very few of them who misuse their womanhood.
When I was in college, there was this girl who would stay at my friend’s dorm till 1:00 AM or 2:00 AM on weekends while we watched movies there. One day she got upset and left because my friend told her that if she doesn’t like the Indian movie we were watching, she can leave. After a while, my friend went to check on her as she wouldn’t answer the phone. Her door was locked, and she was crying inside so he came back within 10 minutes and we finished the movie. Next morning we found out that a police report was filed by her against my friend for attempted sexual assault for trying to break into her room. My friend got arrested. Since there were lots of witnesses who testified in favour of my friend and she couldn’t bring a single witness, so the case was dismissed but my friend had to cut short his education and left for Pakistan as he ran out of money due to the case. He applied for visa again couple of times but never got it. Her excuse for all this drama was that my friend had disrespected her so she wanted revenge.
The bottom line is, we should be kind toward women as our religion says but should also be very cautious these days of the evil ones.
Waleed at workplace you will come across a lot of people who will take undue advantage of whatever they can, be it their charm, race, gender, looks, social skills. The problem in all such situations is the boss, who fails to acknowledge a good worker.
I would always tell my colleagues, as long as they are taking the same salary, they will have to do the same amount of work. Many a times, I still had to do their job, for in my line of work, one has to fix if something is left by another one. But it eventually evens out bcoz when it came to be given responsibilities, those with poor work ethics were filtered out.
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