what is the definition of Ahl ul Bayt

Das Reich, my most confused brother. If you think Shia’s are revisionist then you havent studied sunni Islam with objectivity. It is extremely revisionist, but that is a separate debate.

Even Sons and wives are excluded from Ahlul Bayt since this is a divinely ordained status.

Let me past some ayat from Quran again.

SON excluded

[11:45]
And Noah called upon his Lord, and said:
"O my Lord! surely my son is of my family!
and Thy promise is true,
and Thou art the justest of Judges!"

Allah’s answer is:

[11:46]
He said: "O Noah! He is not of thy family:
For his conduct is unrighteous.

So ask not of Me that of which thou hast no knowledge!
I give thee counsel, lest thou act like the ignorant!"

Wives

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YUSUFALI: Allah sets forth, for an example to the Unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants, but they were false to their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: “Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter!”