Re: What is the biggest thing you dread or fear about marriage?
1,Having to move out right after getting married to finish off school in another state.
2, Being the eldest kid in a single-parent house and the responsibilities I'd have fulfill as a good daughter/sister while being a good wife at the same time.
3, My mother-in-law (I know you said aside from her), but I actually don't fear her mashallah. I do want her to like me a lot, like A LOT and my dude wants to be really close to my mom/be like a son to her . I fear that my mother-in-law might not like this and hold it against me even thought he might treat both his mom and my mom equally. I don't want none of that 'jealousy' thing going around. So I guess I'm scared i'll have a strained relationship with her and I'd hate that.
4, I'm a big spender and my Dude isn't. He doesn't approve of that , and it's a habit that I find hard to change.
5, Our cultural differences. I'm very familiar with his but he's not with mine (but then he't not very familiar with his own either) I don't want him to feel like an outsider around us. I don't want him to be treated like an outsider or be given crap for being a Pakistani.
6, His depression. I was there as a friend for him and understanding towards it but I find it hard to cope with it as a wife-to-be. It's causing issues between us already.
7, The days leading to the wedding. It's taken us two HARD years to get it going and it'll take probably another year before we can get married even though if we were both given the choice we would have gotten married day 1. I hope nothing happens to stop it until then.
8, The fact that majority of his family hasn't seen me yet. His siblings will be seeing me when they come from Pak for the wedding and that might be cutting it too close.
lol you just about voiced every single one of my concerns except the one about the big spender. My husband-to-be is a big spender, and i'm quite thrifty...so it scares me.
Re: What is the biggest thing you dread or fear about marriage?
Seriously?
Yes. Don't want to be to crass here, but once shes married, she doesn't need to give the guy anything to keep him around, especially if they have kids together. Plus a lot desis are raised to think sex is an evil, EVIL act necessary only for making babies. Sex for fun, what are you a w****? Takes the fun out of the job. Welcome to the land of perpetual headaches.
