What is so wrong with being a housewife?

[diamond321]

To the housewives, A+ to you.

To the working moms who bring up finance as an excuse: lower your standard of living, you don't require 5 bedroom house for 3 people nor do you need 2-3 cars.

(maybe 10% really need to work to pay off debt and whatnot then it's ok) the rest are just working because they need to pay for what they want not what they need.

Standard of living can be living in 2 bed room house , having 2 decent meals a day & sending your kids to a ok government school and at the end of month no saving. Yea that can be alright too , some people dont mind living hand to mouth. When the time will come for children to go to college or universities or their shaadi then we'll see. Why worry abt it now "jab ki tab dekhi jaye gi" Many many people have that approach. Yes life can be spend that way too. People spend life by not sending their children to school. They also spend life by making them work.

I myself didn't choose above. I wanted my daughter to go to a good school. I wanted her to live & enjoy her life. I wanted to earn for myself a decent standard of living. I wanted to save something for my old age (if I make it that far !). I wanted to save some money for my daughter's higher education & her wedding. I want to travel & do as many umras as possible. And yes if all that is what u called being GREEDY yes I am GREEDY and I am mean and I think of my and my daughter's future that why I OPTED TO WORK. I am happy that I work . I have faced one of the biggest set backs in life a woman can face and if it wasn't for my job I would have been indebted with huge hospital bills and would be asking for money from my parents for even of the smallest of my and my daughter's needs.

Everybody circumstances are different. Many women choose to work because they want good future for their kids. Many husbands despite earning enough had to give or send back home a good amount of money to their parents & siblings so the woman then has to work or else compromise of her children future. There are be many more different scenarios & circumstances which make women work. It's not only DEBTS which can justify a woman to work. Life is much more complicated than it seems. If only we can see it from other people's eyes.

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[Afro-Sheen]

Re: What is so wrong with being a housewife?

rock on diamond & saddzz

[Sara516]

To the housewives, A+ to you.

To the working moms who bring up finance as an excuse: lower your standard of living, you don't require 5 bedroom house for 3 people nor do you need 2-3 cars.

(maybe 10% really need to work to pay off debt and whatnot then it's ok) the rest are just working because they need to pay for what they want not what they need.

Guess I spoke a bit too soon :)

Sadzzz and diamond made the perfect arguments. If someone wants a lower standard of living, more power to them, likewise if they want a higher standard and are WILLING to work for it, then again more power to them. But to force a lifestyle (whether its simple or working for a "better" one) on someone isn't very fair at all.

Waise, toh I like this discussion though its veering into a slightly different direction than the original point in the thread...I think I shall split this into a new thread....

[K337]

Re: What is so wrong with being a housewife?

isnt beign just a housewife similar to being a masi?
if not so,then theres no harm.

[Stardust09]

Re: What is so wrong with being a housewife?

^ now that is just plain rude!

[CorruptAngel]

@cricketplaya

To the housewives, A+ to you.

To the working moms who bring up finance as an excuse: lower your standard of living, you don’t require 5 bedroom house for 3 people nor do you need 2-3 cars.

(maybe 10% really need to work to pay off debt and whatnot then it’s ok) the rest are just working because they need to pay for what they want not what they need.

How can you say this?? how can you say that those of us who live on a single income are not living at high standards??

FYI, many of us live a very comfortable lifestyle that includes owning a good size home in a great neighborhood and driving a brand new car without any loans/debts!! It all depends on what kind of a job and salary the person has. The truth is, the choice of working or not working for a woman has little to do with a family’s standard of living or what kinda wife/mother someone is!!!

This thread has gone too far…I thinkTHe bottom line is do whatever the heck you want people will judge you no matter what. If you’re a housewife, people will say you’re dumb, you have a lot of free time, you make a bad mother because you probably just watch TV all day, feed junk food to your kid. If you’re a working wife then you’re STILL bad at managing household stuff because you probably don’t have a clue about cooking/cleaning and since you have so little time you’ll probably make a bad mother too…Now, what to do? Do what you like, laug to bakwas karenge har haal mai!

[sweetNsour]

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^ exactly!!

[MIAinVA]

@K337

isnt beign just a housewife similar to being a masi? if not so,then theres no harm.

I'm a working woman but I'm still a maasi for my daughter and husband :@:

[duffy]

@CorruptAngel

How can you say this?? how can you say that those of us who live on a single income are not living at high standards??

FYI, many of us live a very comfortable lifestyle that includes owning a good size home in a great neighborhood and driving a brand new car without any loans/debts!! It all depends on what kind of a job and salary the person has. The truth is, the choice of working or not working for a woman has little to do with a family’s standard of living or what kinda wife/mother someone is!!!

This thread has gone too far…I thinkTHe bottom line is do whatever the heck you want people will judge you no matter what. If you’re a housewife, people will say you’re dumb, you have a lot of free time, you make a bad mother because you probably just watch TV all day, feed junk food to your kid. If you’re a working wife then you’re STILL bad at managing household stuff because you probably don’t have a clue about cooking/cleaning and since you have so little time you’ll probably make a bad mother too…Now, what to do? Do what you like, laug to bakwas karenge har haal mai!

^ Agree CA!!

[Bigboi]

and in Germany women earn 23 % less than men (in same position)!

[PyariCgudia]

To the housewives, A+ to you.

To the working moms who bring up finance as an excuse: lower your standard of living, you don't require 5 bedroom house for 3 people nor do you need 2-3 cars.

(maybe 10% really need to work to pay off debt and whatnot then it's ok) the rest are just working because they need to pay for what they want not what they need.

Most families where the wife works - they do not have 2-3 cars with a 5 bedroom house.

It varies. My mom works now because she is able to take that money and pay for health insurance, which saves my dad a huge load. It gives her some extra pocket money, and when he passes away, it gives her something to rely on.

I've now seen a handful of situations where the woman was dependent on her husband and is now royally screwed as an elderly lady after the death of her husband. Depending on your citizenship status, you may or may not get social security, which is such a pittance anyway. One of these ladies had 2 sons who were of no good use - involved in awaara gardi and such nonsense - and so she had to return to Pakistan and be dependent on her brother. Where she goes once her brother dies, who knows. And in her youth, she was a stay at home flying high society on her husband's money. Another lady right now is facing some serious decisions, because her husband is in the hospital on a ventilator now, and she too is in her old age, no job experience, a degree gotten ages ago from Pakistan which means nothing here. Her kids don't have jobs yet, so what is going to happen, I don't know. Some extended family of the husband's will have to take her in.

These questions of finance are all and well, and of course a mom AND dad should both be there for the kids. But CP, you have NO CLUE how much money it takes to run a basic household. Just do the calculations based on mortgage payments, food costs, bill costs, costs of school supplies for kids, costs of a car, costs of gas, etc, and it all adds up. Most families are unable to save for a rainy day. So if she works when her kids are older and in school, big deal. You save being in those nasty positions when you are old.

[blackforest_360]

Most families where the wife works - they do not have 2-3 cars with a 5 bedroom house.

It varies. My mom works now because she is able to take that money and pay for health insurance, which saves my dad a huge load. It gives her some extra pocket money, and when he passes away, it gives her something to rely on.

I've now seen a handful of situations where the woman was dependent on her husband and is now royally screwed as an elderly lady after the death of her husband. Depending on your citizenship status, you may or may not get social security, which is such a pittance anyway. One of these ladies had 2 sons who were of no good use - involved in awaara gardi and such nonsense - and so she had to return to Pakistan and be dependent on her brother. Where she goes once her brother dies, who knows. And in her youth, she was a stay at home flying high society on her husband's money. Another lady right now is facing some serious decisions, because her husband is in the hospital on a ventilator now, and she too is in her old age, no job experience, a degree gotten ages ago from Pakistan which means nothing here. Her kids don't have jobs yet, so what is going to happen, I don't know. Some extended family of the husband's will have to take her in.

These questions of finance are all and well, and of course a mom AND dad should both be there for the kids. But CP, you have NO CLUE how much money it takes to run a basic household. Just do the calculations based on mortgage payments, food costs, bill costs, costs of school supplies for kids, costs of a car, costs of gas, etc, and it all adds up. Most families are unable to save for a rainy day. So if she works when her kids are older and in school, big deal. You save being in those nasty positions when you are old.

hallelujah.