What is Pakistan and Pakistani?

It is not all doom and gloom my friend. Pakistan has its own unique mix of culturual traits that are hard to find anywhere else. Some of the things that you have sited are natural part of global world where information and entertainment from faraway places are readily available, sometimes at the cost of local customs and culture. Having travelled the world, I can say that Pakistan is probably at the lower end of places affected by globalization and a global culture. You also have to recognize the natural similiarity and common culture with India and Indian culture that automatically attracts people to them. This effect is amplified by suppression of Pakistani culture, Pakistani arts, Pakistani movies and Pakistani music by the Mullah influence and the forced attempts at Arabization of Pakistani culture.

OTOH some of the things that you mentioned have come from a tradition of keeping people busy with something faraway so they don't pay attention to what is happening in their backyards. I have wondered myself why the news of California wildfire, for example, get coverage in news in Pakistani media. I think, traditionally coverage of local news and issues was discouraged and limited by succesive governments in Pakistan. I remember in the 80s (Zia's time) the news of any local riots etc. in Karachi did not use to get any coverage on TV news and the only information was few lines of press report from the Deputy Commisioner office. Things have gotten a lot better with open media now. Some of it is just laziness of news media taking stories of AP and Reuter feeds and publishing them.

The language issue is complex. There is a long history of English as an official language, Urdu is the national language but not the mother tongue of most of the population. The mix of English, Urdu and regional languages is uniquely Pakistani. Nothing too bad about that, in my view. Yes, things could be made better so that all languages remain important and fluency of several languuages is recognized as a benefit and encouraged.