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marriage can be good if you picked the right person. its not that hard to pick the right-ish person. just dont be desperate, dont have any other agendas, like shopping for a good pair of jeans.
yes.
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Awesome ;)
I shall unravel your subconscious labyrinths.
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Hubby and I have had our nikkah done for a few months now with our wedding coming up very soon InshAllah. And all I can say is I love being married to him. It is compromise at times (like all relationships), however, there is nothing more wonderful than knowing that there is this one person who is always there for you through everything. I have a very supportive family as well and life at my parents house has been nothing short of amazing BUT your soul male and life partner is someone with whom you are connected in a completely different way. I can't explain it, but I'm sure most of the married people get me :)
It's worth the sacrifices we make. I totally get it.. :) I couldn't have asked for a better husband.
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Omg lol 
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I totally agree with "marriage is what you make of it".Op did you recently get married?
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I think its too soon for me to tell what it will be like. You can't just sign a paper and become a rel'p expert overnight because advice we write out here is much harder to follow than we might think in reality.
Like for instance...I always say "pick your battles" and its true. You should always pick your battles. But when you're used to having your way, being listened to and all of a sudden you hear "no"...is it that easy? Is it easy to hold your tongue and decide if this battle is worth fighting when you're seeing red in front of your eyes?
Is it truly that easy to deal with difficult in-laws? Its been a long time since I had to battle any SIL's or MIL's and Alhumdulillah I haven't run into any issues yet.
Let's not be naive and think there's a formula for anyone because there isn't. Some people have been married once, some twice, some never. Each marriage is different as well. Some people are very vocal, some private, some in it for convenience, some in love, some not in love, some falling in love and some are over love.
Marriage is as lots of people have said...what you make of it...what you want out of it. And by you...I mean both of you.
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I can't wait to get married... It is better to have a companion who understand your needs and you understand theirs... All you need is mental compatibility and the picture will fall together. Wishing you good luck :) ...
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so firecrackerbabe got married on which page. I missed it.
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so firecrackerbabe got married on which page. I missed it.
Re-read my post!... Get them glasses!
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i have been married for only 6 months, and i love being married. the only thing i don't like about being married is that i have to share my closet.. :(
I thought u said u had a catholic bf?
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marriage can be good if you picked the right person. its not that hard to pick the right-ish person. just dont be desperate, dont have any other agendas, like shopping for a good pair of jeans.
I don't get how this is done. It just seems like something other people are lucky enough to get. Like the perfect, good match approved by the heavens. Some people are just lucky to find someone they click with. I've seen it where people are great on paper, like with biodata but are so incompatible when it comes to all the other stuff.
There's this guy that whenever I see, my eyes light up and I just sigh with relief that I got to see him and talk with him. He just brings a calmness and stress relief to me when i'm in his presence which is something i've never felt with most men. When I look into his eyes, he just seems like someone i just connect with in higher level but i'm older than him and it's impossible for any long term relationship with that age difference. We're attracted to each other. God sure has a cruel sense of humor.
It's true, marriage would seem like torture if you are with someone so very incompatible and wrong in most ways or has a totally different way of thinking and a stubbornness to the max. No attraction. Lord I would probably be a dead body walking.
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I thought u said u had a catholic bf?
husband, not a boyfriend.
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these tips are for becoming a good wife or a good mom? WTH seriously
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I don't get how this is done. It just seems like something other people are lucky enough to get. Like the perfect, good match approved by the heavens. Some people are just lucky to find someone they click with. I've seen it where people are great on paper, like with biodata but are so incompatible when it comes to all the other stuff.
There's this guy that whenever I see, my eyes light up and I just sigh with relief that I got to see him and talk with him. He just brings a calmness and stress relief to me when i'm in his presence which is something i've never felt with most men. When I look into his eyes, he just seems like someone i just connect with in higher level but i'm older than him and it's impossible for any long term relationship with that age difference. We're attracted to each other. God sure has a cruel sense of humor.
It's true, marriage would seem like torture if you are with someone so very incompatible and wrong in most ways or has a totally different way of thinking and a stubbornness to the max. No attraction. Lord I would probably be a dead body walking.
In desi marriages, finding a perfect mate does not guarantee a successful marriage. There is other family drama that can ruin a perfectly good marriage.
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these tips are for becoming a good wife or a good mom? WTH seriously
I just gave you the most amazing tips to keep your husband on the leash! This is done in private to let you know and he will go crazy after you when the lady show extra care and love... Men are visual creatures~
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^you watch animal planet a lot
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There's this guy that whenever I see, my eyes light up and I just sigh with relief that I got to see him and talk with him. He just brings a calmness and stress relief to me when i'm in his presence which is something i've never felt with most men. When I look into his eyes, he just seems like someone i just connect with in higher level but i'm older than him and it's impossible for any long term relationship with that age difference. We're attracted to each other. God sure has a cruel sense of humor.
That's exactly how I feel about the person I am about to marry:-). You should try googling *TwinFlame *(I haven't searched much but it was an interesting concept).
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Then one in read… you answered that in black…
No Attraction: Attraction comes later in our culture. If you don’t have mental compatibility… aesi attraction ka kiya fiada.. jab dimagh hi na milian…
:cobra:
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For a very long time, I imagined wedding to be a good thing. you get to live with your husband, man you've loved ( in case of love marriage) otherwise it can be rough too.. with the in laws and stuff.. its not your own home. but never like a jail.
so my recent obversation and things ive heard doesn't support this ..life is toughter, your husband wants you to spend time with ur parent while husband is never home. he doesn't take her out,she is always home ...not talking much, there is no bond.. no sharing stuff and talking about feelings.
is this true? can anyone give their version??
I haven't found it difficult.. but then again I don't live with inlaws which cuts out 90% of the issues imo..
Parents are nearby but we live independently and are free to make our own decisions without the drama and politics which might otherwise be there..
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BSB please marry me instead. I serenaded you so hard a while back and you rejected me. 