What is married life like..? without any sugar coating.

For a very long time, I imagined wedding to be a good thing. you get to live with your husband, man you’ve loved ( in case of love marriage) otherwise it can be rough too.. with the in laws and stuff.. its not your own home. but never like a jail.

so my recent obversation and things ive heard doesn’t support this ..life is toughter, your husband wants you to spend time with ur parent while husband is never home. he doesn’t take her out,she is always home …not talking much, there is no bond.. no sharing stuff and talking about feelings.

is this true? can anyone give their version??

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Thats what my ex-bf wanted me to do if we were to get married to take care of his parents and sit at home..... No, there are actually genuine men out there who will treat you with love, respect, and give you the world. Marriage is a give and take type of deal between two partners :) ... If the relationship has the follow ingrediants: trust, romance, understanding, excitement, listening, patience, overcoming, and commitment then you are good to go :)

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Marriage is what you make of it, like everything else in this life.

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It's lots of compromises. My husband doesn't care if I spend much time with his family. We all live together. I am 99% of the time in my room doing my stuff. They know by now that this is how my personality is. I am a loner and not interested at all in gossiping and regular chit-chat. Also, even if it's your home and your inlaws live with you, it's their house. The reason it is like that for me is because I hate being told what to do and how to do something. So I gave away all the control willingly. I would rather not argue over silly things. Marriage is definitely overrated.

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How is it overrated?

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... are you married? I thought so..

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Besides getting laid, its pretty much a sentence.

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In my friend circle, these married couple are out and having fun all the time!!!... Why did you say marriage is overrated?
I am engaged..

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Death sentence??? Are you a girl?

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Its a sentence.

It depends on my mood, sometimes im in a girly mode, sometimes in guy mode. Rest assured, this variation is only for acedamic debates.

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Marriage is a lot of work and compromise. You'll have amazing days and not so amazing days but you've gotta work as a team.

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How long have you been married? Was yours love or arranged marriage?

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I agree with you... In any relationship, constant work is required to make it healthy and happy.

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My marital status is also an acedamic one. I vary from being unmarried, to engaged, to married, to divorced etc. I exist in all forms.

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Which form are you feeling right now ?

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Recently married male.

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Are you enjoying your love life then? You must be in a fairytale world :))

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I wrote very clearly, what I enjoy.

The shackles are kind of making it hard, i have to be answerable for each and everything that I do or don't do. Also i am expected to know what she wants/feels etc etc, how am i supposed to know if she don't tell me?

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marriage can be good if you picked the right person. its not that hard to pick the right-ish person. just dont be desperate, dont have any other agendas, like shopping for a good pair of jeans.

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My fiance and I are going clothes shopping next weekend.... Should I be scared?