Yes, we all know what the definition of marriage is but I am interested in asking what marriage is to each individual specifically. This is necessary to ask yourself because marriage is a very important decision that you make in your life. You need to know what marriage is to you.
What is MARRIAGE to you?
We can know the definition of any word looking up at the dictionary and see the meanings for it. I found these meanings in my dictionary for marriage: “legal union of a man and a woman”, “intimate union”.
Yes, we all know what the definition of marriage is but I am interested in asking what marriage is to each individual specifically. This is necessary to ask yourself because marriage is a very important decision that you make in your life. You need to know what marriage is to you.
Every individual is unique and his past life structure develops his senses to understand the meanings of each word he/she hears. When somebody say the word “sky” to you, you may think of blue sky right away but maybe other person standing beside you may think differently about this word. He may see the clouds on sky in his imagination, another one may see sunset colors of sky, and another one may see the unlimited opportunities extended his way. It all depends how you understand each word and what it means to you.
The given ratio of divorces and broken family structure in today’s societies indicate that we are not clear in our minds about the importance of this relationship. Believe me; I have seen a lot of people ruining their and their children’s lives for not being able to pay attention to the key problem that breaks their marriages. The key problem is not having the passion to hold marriage together by not understanding the meaning of it. The key words to hold marriage together are Respect, Patient and Attitude.
I want to share the answers given by Gupistan members with all of you and also thank all these lovely people for sharing their ideas. They came up with some very crucial factors in a marriage.
You can explore your minds also and see what the word Marriage means to you. Maybe this will help our future generations or our own generation and change the shape of world in misery today.
hemmm marriage to me is....1) a relationship based on respect, trust, love, honesty 2) spendin rest of ur life with the person u love the most in the world! 3) compromise 4) being there for each other in good/bad times 4) raising a family according to the sunna (which is very hard now a days)
u can get married just like that but going through it all da way is pretty darn hard. i mean u not gona have a lovy dovy relationship all the time, of course u gona fight, throw things at each other and what not but u can get into it with ur sibblings, friends, parents etc so learn to compromise. keeping ur mouth shut sometimes works really well and when the other person is calm then communicate. dont keep nething in ur heart cuz it can build up and u might blow up one day...n thas not good! so TALK to each other!!!
some1 who’s willing to become part of u & vice versa, support each other through everything, some1 to enjoy the rest of ure life with, together till the end no matter what…oh yeah, and some1 u can put all ure ‘energy’ into…too graphic?
Life experiences are meant to make the actual bonds stronger than ever.
when a couple does social good and is a pride of a community’s well being, there is no more gratifying thing to be enjoyed as a partnership of a husband and wife.
also, being able to help each other's family members and especially own parents and the spouses' parents are good deeds which the partnership can handle with much more strength.. so that is a good thing that comes with marrying.
personally, having a friend in ur spouse, is crucial. this relationship is unique and different from all others. even if we were to keep the intimacy department out of this argument, a certain joy comes when one is on the same wave length as one's spouse might be.
Someone who you will grow to love and cherish,
Someone who will rub your belly when you are feeling down
Someone who'll see you for who you are and still be OK with it
Someone you'll wake up to every morning and kiss there forehead.
Someone you will Love for giving you a beautiful Child.
Someone you will sit on the front porch with, when you are old and talk about the good old time
Someone you will grow old with and die.
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