some 2 months back, I just wanted to get your point of views again. What happened is that, on Thursday, he messaged me on facebook & asking how’s life, etc. So i just politely replied back saying things are okay, etc. So he just confessed that, he was not going to go to Canada or anywhere & he had said that at that time because he wanted to break all contacts because he was facing issues at his work & also that, whatever he had said about his health are correct & his health isn’t well still. So, he was like, i might be mad at him because of leaving just like that & he started apologizing and all. But i acted as if i wasn’t that bothered & so i told him that it’s okay. I told him like i didn’t mind it then & i don’t mind it now as well.
So, at the end, he was like, he was going offline on facebook by deactivating his account & wouldn’t be available on facebook for the next three weeks because of his work schedule & he was like, i should message him on his email address which i have. Then i told him, like last time i don’t want to get into any habit of exchanging emails with him anymore, but he acted as if he didn’t notice what i said & he kept insisting like, he would be available through emails but not on facebook. So, i just left it.
Now, i would like to get you people’s point of views on this that, what made him write back? What is he trying to do now? Should i just ignore him? I don’t have his email address because i had deleted it then & luckily i don’t remember it. But what you people suggest?
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Umm…so the guy told you he LIED to you…and you told him you didn’t mind it?! So you basically told him that you have no problem with him lying to you and disrespecting you?
None of us can tell you what made him write back or what he’s trying to do. But he has already lied to you once about something big. What on earth makes you think he won’t lie to you again? If you have any self-respect, then you will ignore him 100%.
However, if you don’t mind chit-chatting with a guy who lied to you and still seems to be making up stories (he’s too busy to chat with you on FB but e-mail is ok?! )…then by all means continue responding to his e-mails.
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Umm.....so the guy told you he LIED to you....and you told him you didn't mind it?! So you basically told him that you have no problem with him lying to you and disrespecting you?
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^ Maybe....but did I say something that's not true? The guy admitted he lied to her and apologized. Her response to this is that "it's ok", she "didn't mind it". So what message is she giving the guy? Why should this guy not lie to her in the future since she told him that it's ok and she doesn't mind it?
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Who knows why he resumed contact? Maybe he was shopping around for other girls during that time. He lied to you, admitted and then apologized to you, but now he's ignoring your wish to not talk to him ....which is disrespectful....he didn't want to talk about it or make the effort to convince you otherwise....he just ignored it and that reflects disrespect and lack of maturity. Maybe you're asking us why he resumed contact with you because you want to hear that he missed you, that he thinks you're special, and that maybe there's some significance in his return. I don't have a good feeling about this....I think you should move on. And if that's something you can't do...then certainly lower your expectations considerably should you choose to keep in touch.
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No, I didn’t exactly give him impression that it was all okay he telling lies to me, but at the same time, i didn’t want to bombard him with any questions like, why, how, what, etc.. So, i just gave him an impression like let it be whatever it was, & now i wasn’t anymore interested to keep in touch with him..
Yes, you are right. I should move on & I am. Probably you are right that he was shopping around for other girls, & so, he did tell such a big lie then, & so he would definitely keep on telling even bigger lies later on as well.
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^ Fail, logic is fail.
Once in a while is supposed to be alright, and it more so is when the other goes on to admit and apologizes about it. Therefore, lettuce try not accusing the guy of being a habitual liar here.
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I don't know about before but right now it seems like he is just exploring options and that's it. How is it possible to not have time for Facebook but email is okay? Just looking at the facts you've presented...I'd not email him at all. Leave him be. He knows how and where to find if he needs to. Let him make more of an effort. Randomly emailing you is not enough.
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Even if he was exploring options, that shouldn't necessarily damage his cause, because in essence, we'd all want to be a part of it when given the chance.
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no matter how busy one is , some time can always be spared for loved one and for this you need to have good intentions of keeping in contact.
I don't buy this excuse that "oh I am so busy that I cannot even talk for 5 mins" this is total crap. I have seen people getting up from important business meetings for few mins to talk with their family / friends and this includes myself too.
he is not worth your time. he is just showing-off how important his time is and how blessed you are to have been allotted his precious time....very cheap tactic in my opinion.
)…then by all means continue responding to his e-mails.
