Re: What if your wedding is simple??
you’re seeing a bunch of girls getting excited about a pretty important event in their lives. ideas on how to make things look pretty and/or different don’t always equate to spending a ton of money, or translate to reality i.e. they WILL spend a ton of money. but there’s nothing wrong in ooh’ing and aah’ing over the things we’d love to have, even if we know its unrealistic to think about them. i would have loved a pair of jimmy choo’s at my wedding but would i have considered spending $800 on them? not at all! doesn’t mean i can’t appreciate them on the bride that can and does.
its just conversation and collaboration for the most part. there will always be people who take things to extremes in life… that’s just the way people are. some people will opt for a civil marriage with no fanfare, and some will take loans out and hire jugglers, fire eaters and elephants for their big day. its such a personal decision- none of us are really capable of judging someone else’s behaviour.
and quite frankly, yes, marriage IS the most important thing ever. the foundation of our conventional society etc., no? you disagree with this? you don’t think men think this way? i think what this forum is vastly guilty of is stereotypes. i don’t know if this is a cultural thing bleeding through or if we’re just fond of painting people into boxes, but i hear very little from men regarding how they view weddings and marriage, outside of the random hero who wanders through with his “if my wife wears red/doesn’t listen to my mom/isn’t happy with aloo gosht at the reception etc. then i’m going to beat her” comments. 
my brother got married last summer and there were some things he did care about- he had a specific vision for how he wanted his wedding day to be, to an extent- and other things he couldn’t be bothered with. my husband and i both planned our wedding together- again, he has his own taste too in certain things, so i couldn’t just walk in and dictate the entire affair- and to be honest, neither did i want to. its a ****load of pressure for one person to handle, and so long as marriage is about two people, so should planning a wedding be.
i think a lot, if not all, guys are like that. everyone has their preferences in life- so lets hear it from the boys for once. what mattered to you about your wedding day, or will matter to you if it hasn’t happened yet? not the kind of wife you want, but seriously speaking, what kind of wedding do you want, and what are the things you’re just happy to let your bride-to-be decide?