^ first case no - he is a shaki mizaj admi always doubting his wife for no reasons.
second case yes - drugs I believe not alcoholism .
But I can tell you from my personal experience even a man who has not even tasted a drop of liquor can be a habitual abuser towards his wife & kids. Abusive nature does not necessarily stems from bad habits like drugs or liquor it can also be a result of abusive child hood , greed for money , narcissistic personality disorder and many other reason.
Recently Shahid Afridi is the one guy we all would like to see get beat up (for sinking his teeth into an innocent ball) - I mean, what did the poor ball ever do to him? What gave him the right to bite a ball?
A bit off topic I know, but sometimes I just can’t help myself…
^ first case no - he is a shaki mizaj admi always doubting his wife for no reasons.
second case yes - drugs I believe not alcoholism .
But I can tell you from my personal experience even a man who has not even tasted a drop of liquor can be a habitual abuser towards his wife & kids. I have been a victim of it. Abusive nature does not necessarily stems from bad habits like drugs or liquor it can also be a result of abusive child hood , greed for money , narcissistic personality disorder and many other reason.
Yes, you have a very good point indeed. It may not always be tied to alcoholism, but then again, things only get worse if it is present...
Abusing and saying dirty things cannot be tolerated at any cost. If my husband really dislikes something then he just says it right on my face in straight words. I don't mind that because this is not something which should be kept as a grudge. I have seen so many so called civilized people abusing without even realizing that to whom they are actually talking, they just say whatever they feel like saying and they never feel shame for their words. Thank God I'm not a wife of any of such people otherwise it would be a life time torture.
I cannot expect that my husband can slap me or even hurt me by saying such words that can hit my self respect. Why would he do that after all I'm his wife and every word he would say, will directly hit himself.
Abusing and saying dirty things cannot be tolerated at any cost. If my husband really dislikes something then he just says it right on my face in straight words. I don't mind that because this is not something which should be kept as a grudge. I have seen so many so called civilized people abusing without even realizing that to whom they are actually talking, they just say whatever they feel like saying and they never feel shame for their words. Thank God I'm not a wife of any of such people otherwise it would be a life time torture.
I cannot expect that my husband can slap me or even hurt me by saying such words that can hit my self respect.*** Why would he do that after all I'm his wife and every word he would say, will directly hit himself***.
not many people think that way.
islam says that "husband aur wife ek doosray ka libas hotain hain" and it's true.
^ I am 100% agreed with that. Our religion doesn't say things without any logic. People who don't think like that usually deny this saying and they might not be aware of ethics and respect of relationships.
Only loosers, insecure men and *******s hit their wives (innocent). If the wife has done nothing wrong to provoke him and even then if he hits her, better leave such a person who cant control himself.
If god forbid it ever happened to me, i wont tolerate it, me or him will be out of the house.
most times when my mum slapped me when I was younger, I knew I deserved it.. I lean more on the cool calculated stairs punishment but not sure if it is better than a slap on the tush..
I think you have to take the "slap" into context
I do not advocate husbands and wifes slapping each other and definitley no way if it is punches/kicks.. but sometimes things get out of hand.. it is more importat to understand how you feel and if somewhere inside of you, you pushed that button too many times
Just to put the shoe on the other foot.. women hitting their hubbies is becoming more common with women using lame excuses such as PMT..
Do you see husbands leaving them.. ?
I pray that I never have to experience a slap from my husband and vice versa but I think my response would be to kick him where it will bleeding well hurt and see how he likes it..
on tele i was watching a documentry once about thailand. and the woman chopped her man’s manhood off with sciccors because he did somethin wrong (i cant remember what) … but apparently this was normal in thailand. such cases had occured before. but it was amazing to see that the guy just got a surgery done, fixed his man thing … and woohooo … they’re back together! he said on int’l tv that he forgave her, and he loves her too much.
it was disgusting. :ulti:
Why “especially”? Women has been subject to physical abuse in our society for long but dont try to over compensate her. All she want is equal rights. If husband is slapped by wife, she should be dumped too…
First I'd slap the living crap out of him.....then I'd call the cops....then id get a restraining order......then .....hmm.......secure my assets......then divorce him :)
lol @ securing assets (smart gal) - you should secure some of his assets too.
You don't hit guys. It's doesn't hurt. You kick them really hard in the appropriate place and they their face will go blue and they won't be able to get up for about 5 minutes.
A man who raises a hand to a woman is not a man. He's a pathetic excuse for a human being who needs to subjugate a weaker person to make his own self feel bigger. I'd toss him out on his arse. This goes not only for physical abuse but also emotional and verbal abuse. Take it else-where.
lol @ securing assets (smart gal) - you should secure some of his assets too.
You don't hit guys. It's doesn't hurt. You kick them really hard in the appropriate place and they their face will go blue and they won't be able to get up for about 5 minutes.
Dangerous advice. Sometimes the pain doesn't sink in for about a minute or more. Time which could prove very dangerous for the lady.
Don’t you think domestic abuse is limited to people with no education?
Like, for example, I wouldn’t expect a man as educated and as smart as Obama to slap his wife, you know? An illiterate dude from a pind in Pakistan, for example, may be expected to exhibit such kinda behaviour.
Its easy to say what you would and wouldn't do but unless you're in that situation, you will never know what you would do.
This.
Since the question was asked, for now I think that I'll try to exercise patience. When that runs out, if it's lack of respect or cursing, I would retaliate in a similar manner. As for a slap, well, it would depend on how much it would hurt and how angry I might get. Though I haven't experienced anything like that (and never will, inshAllah), some old WWF/WCW moves come to mind.
