Another common reason I have seen in my personal experience from friends and acquaintances for divorce is not able to perform. Mostly girls blame men for it. I do not know if thats really true or girl is just blaming man to justify her act.
Men usually are quiet when they divorce. Mainly they say, she was not a good wife or not willing to adopt to new place etc. etc.
Off course there will not be a real discussion about her 'performance' for obvious physical reason.
Many times lousy lawyers tell female clients to make "performance" as reason for divorce. A lawyer friend of mine told me a story that a woman was having an affair and wanted divorce, but in court she did not want to admit it, so she was told by lawyer to say that husband cannot satisfy me sexually. This is the converstaion that went between them
Judge: Bibi tooN kiyooN talaaq lena chahni heiN
Woman: Judge saab ae banda meri bharai naiN ker sakda
Judge: Bibi teri shadi nooN kinney saal ho gaye naiN
Woman: 5 saal
Judge: terey kinney bachey neiN
Woman: 3
Judge: 5 saal wich 3 bachey jam key wi teri bharai nahiN hoi tey fer koi teri bharai naiN ker sakda
Case thrown out
Many times lousy lawyers tell female clients to make "performance" as reason for divorce. A lawyer friend of mine told me a story that a woman was having an affair and wanted divorce, but in court she did not want to admit it, so she was told by lawyer to say that husband cannot satisfy me sexually. This is the converstaion that went between them
Judge: Bibi tooN kiyooN talaaq lena chahni heiN
Woman: Judge saab ae banda meri bharai naiN ker sakda
Judge: Bibi teri shadi nooN kinney saal ho gaye naiN
Woman: 5 saal
Judge: terey kinney bachey neiN
Woman: 3
Judge: 5 saal wich 3 bachey jam key wi teri bharai nahiN hoi tey fer koi teri bharai naiN ker sakda
Case thrown out
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Personally, i think both man and woman should not be required to give reason if they do not want to. What is the point. Just ask can you work it out or not.
Give them time and bring family or friends in to the matter if they like.
There have been some terrible reasons women gave specially in western countries to get the kids posession and divorce.
If no reason is put forward and the person wants divorce then so be it.
Off course other responsibility after divorce must be worked out accordingly.