it must be hard for both of u to live apart.. and it must be harder for her to live in susral without u being there.. i m sure ur family is nice ppl but i have seen susrals where bahu isnt treated the same when hubby is not around.. mayb she is not opening up becuase she doesnt want to disturb u living far from family ... mayb u should ask her k koi tumhain kuch kehta to nahee.. and u may b u should ask her if my family is keeping u happy.. u kno things like that... the bond that u want will surely come with time...
No I don't expect her to call me once or twice a day... whenever she is going to live there for a few days ... i was not talking about those daily visits, She should just let me know before she goes i don't have any problem i will be happy with it, I'll like that way becoz it shows more concern about you.
Try to understand me please
Ok now i understand u just ask her politely whenever u are going for two three days just please tell me
or u can ask her politely we two are bonded now so i wanna share everything with u and i want u to share everything with me, and i really care about u so please inform me whenever wwe are going outside or if something bothers u.I'll try to understand and be helpful to you.
Here is what I did when I was here and my wife was in Pakistan. I asked her to live with her parents and visit my parents once in a while. Me not being there was hard enough and plus I was going to get her to live here in US with me so I think it was fair enough for her to live with her parents since visiting pakistan from US is something that cant happen every 6 months.
Brother, it doesn't matter how far you are from her and how close she is living to her parents house. Just follow a simple rule:
"Behave with your spouse the way you want him/her to behave with you "
SIMPLE!!
If you also inform her before going outside to "any" place than you can expect from her the same. IF you go outside of your house to "any place" of your choice which is not in her knowledge than don't expect from her to inform you about the places she goes to.
Though I understand that the head of the house is "One" but the relationship should be based on mutual trust and understanding.
I might be wrong, but this is what I sincerely believe in what justice demands!!
No I don't expect her to call me once or twice a day... whenever she is going to live there for a few days ... i was not talking about those daily visits, She should just let me know before she goes i don't have any problem i will be happy with it, I'll like that way becoz it shows more concern about you.
Try to understand me please
Well then tell her that. What are you telling us for?