we had this pretty interesting debate in class today ..and the prof. asked what if your own kid turns out to be gay/lesbian?..how would you react?..what would you do to make him/her attracted to the opposite gender?.. would u let him/her life the way they wanna live and start staying away from them or wat?..lotsa people had their own opinion..whereas i was speechless since i have never thought about homosexuality from this point…
so ya.. what would u do?..discuss please..
we had this pretty interesting debate in class today ..and the prof. asked what if your own kid turns out to be gay/lesbian?..how would you react?..what would you do to make him/her attracted to the opposite gender?.. would u let him/her life the way they wanna live and start staying away from them or wat?...lotsa people had their own opinion..whereas i was speechless since i have never thought about homosexuality from this point...
so ya.. what would u do?..discuss please..
I will make (my son) watch dostana ...desi girl
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Another homosexuality thread. 
In Western countries, parents do not have a say. They can’t force their kids to do anything they don’t want to do. So, most desi and Muslim parents don’t wait until last minute to convey the wrongs of homosexuality to their children. They start quite early in teaching their kids the right from wrong. However, if all is said and done and the child still feels like being gay - then parents have no say. That is the bitter truth.
May Allah protect us and our offspring from trials like these, ameen.
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As far as I know and as far as research into the subject goes, if you are gay you are born that way and you can't be 'forced straight' by marriage etc. I once even interviewed a gay prostitute who said people just don't believe how many married men he has as customers, people who tried to hide their sexuality but in the end it always gets the better of you.
I've thought of this topic. I think for a mother it's very hard to turn her child away, at least it would be for me. I'm quite an open minded person, so I wouldn't be upset if my child was gay because I know that's not a choice, like you can't choose your own gender or skin colour. But I would be upset for them, because I'd know that their lives would be so much harder and complicated.
If this happened to my child, I would try to be as supportive as possible and let them know that no matter what, they always have a place at home. Being gay nowadays anywhere, especially in Pakistan, could even get you killed. It would be wrong to turn on your child knowing that the rest of the world is going to turn on them too, you are all they really have.
When I think back to the times I tried to tell my parents something that was really important to me, and how upset and angry they were, and how i then had to conceal my happiness from those who mattered most to me (i chose my own partner, Allhamdulillah all's ok with my parents now) I know that feeling of loneliness and rejection when all you needed was some acceptance. I could never do that to my own child, though I hope I don't have to face this scenario.
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we had this pretty interesting debate in class today ..and the prof. asked what if your own kid turns out to be gay/lesbian?..how would you react?..what would you do to make him/her attracted to the opposite gender?.. would u let him/her life the way they wanna live and start staying away from them or wat?...lotsa people had their own opinion..whereas i was speechless since i have never thought about homosexuality from this point...
so ya.. what would u do?..discuss please..
there's not much that you can do about your homo son/daughter but there's so much you can do to have your kids a healthy sexuality [to be straight].
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uh - speechless I am :(
..but I know a family who knew about their son being gay... he just got married for the first time at around 35 - 40 yrs old - to a much younger, very beautiful girl (but from poor family) - just to keep his family happy.
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One of my cousins is gay...!!! what a pucker!!!!
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i hear you !
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In 1993, Drs. William Byne and Bruce Parsons, researchers at the New York State Psychiatric Institute, critically reviewed “the evidence favoring a biologic theory” presented by LeVay and Bailey & Pillard.They concluded in the Archives of General Psychiatry that “[t]here is no evidence at present to substantiate a biologic theory” of sexual orientation!
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I agree with you - there is nothing that you could do. But at what age should you start talking to your kids about this? There are so manu images that they see like “Dostana commercials” or shows like Will and Grace or even in school. What is the right age? and What do you say?
There is a lot you can do. It depends on if you have been brainwashed like others by the media hype to this issue or you believe experts of this field.
“Born WHAT Way?” by Dr. Paul Cameron]("Born WHAT Way?" by Dr. Paul Cameron)
I agree with you - there is nothing that you could do. But at what age should you start talking to your kids about this? There are so manu images that they see like "Dostana commercials" or shows like Will and Grace or even in school. What is the right age? and What do you say?
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Mirch - what can you do - you cannot the force the child? (esp in western countries - there are laws)
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I read both of the articles that you sent - To me it makes sense but to most homosexual population it might not.
They way that I look at it that it's an urge - just like you might have an urge to kill someone, or to hurt someone but you don't go exploring every urge that you have.
We can't deny it - it exists in the world around us and even existed in olden days.
My question pertains to children - what age is the right age to start talking to them about this stuff?
I read both of the articles that you sent - To me it makes sense but to most homosexual population it might not.
They way that I look at it that it's an urge - just like you might have an urge to kill someone, or to hurt someone but you don't go exploring every urge that you have.
We can't deny it - it exists in the world around us and even existed in olden days.
My question pertains to children - what age is the right age to start talking to them about this stuff?
Now you are talking . So the kids are not born with it. The environment around them or some kind of trauma can result in this kind of behavior. Too much liberty , lack of discipline , lack of interest in taking time to raise kids can result in this kind of behavior. So parents can avoid it by making sure that their kids have the right kind of environment around them and are well protected from all kind of evils, like indulging in pre teen , teen or pre marital sex , drugs , gangs . Parents should make sure the kids are hanging around right kind of crowd. etc etc.
It will be a parent's bad luck if they do all they can do to protect them and still their kid turns out to be a rebel , homosexual or criminal. Then luck of the parents has to be blamed for it.
It will be a parent's bad luck if they do all they can do to protect them and still their kid turns out to be a rebel , homosexual or criminal. Then luck of the parents has to be blamed for it.
As Straight_up said May Allah protect us and our offspring from trials like these, ameen.
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Mirch - I think LUCK or better word is FATE has a lot to do with it. MOST parents do their best for their kids.
They try to earn, give their children time and the right education. But sitautions are not ever IDEAL. I personally find myself fighthing with time to find a balance between kids, career, education, religion, family obligations.
I guess nobody has answer for me - what age should I start introducing this topic with my children. OR should I be a desi mom and not talk to about it all.
When I was grewing up my mom told me that it doesn't exist and people just made it up. She also told me that in Pakistan such things don't exist. Then I went to Peshawar for the first time with my Nana....... ;)
uh - speechless I am :(
..but I know a family who knew about their son being gay... he just got married for the first time at around 35 - 40 yrs old - to a much younger, very beautiful girl (but from poor family) - just to keep his family happy.
i feel so bad for the girl!!
One of my cousins is gay...!!! what a pucker!!!!
I hope you didn't find out the Hard way?