Ladies, let’s say you met someone who impressed you in every single way, and they were serious about you and you were planning on getting married. Now a while before the wedding is to take place, you find out that your husband-to-be is not a virgin.
Would you change your mind about him? Would this one thing cause you to drop everything and run in the opposite direction? After all, if you’re saving yourself for marriage, then you have the right to expect the same from your husband to be, don’t you? Or would it not matter to you, since people make mistakes and the past should be left in the past?
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I think you should go ahead, Whatever has done in the past .... you should forget it and should look farward. We are human being.... we make mistakes.... But we should promise eachother not to do all that in the future and promise we will live a prosperous life indeed.
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they should have been honest with you at first place... once they knew that things were getting serious they should have come out of that shell.. now when you are this close of marrying them they decide to open up....
i dont like that.. i would for sure lose respect for them....
if they are not virgin it shows how important their faith is to them... i am not a saint or anything like that... but there are few things that are simply wrong and there is NO exception in case of Zina its totally haram....
i dont know what value can they teach my kids....
now if they were married before ... its understandable duah.... i wont have a problem with that... *
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if u cant accept da fact tat he's not a virgin then its best to leave him otherwise this very fact cud be da reason for future problems in ur married life.
but as human beings, we all make mistakes, some more grieveous than others. its also human to forgive and not hold grudges from da past. if he's really repentive abt his mistake then u hav no reason to let it stand between u 2.
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GoHunza
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well i think if the guy has lost his virgenity before marriage then he is not at all a sincere person,virgenity is not SWEETS jou u can give to anyone ..same case applies to the girls too:hoonh:
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if you really love someone, you are ALL forgiving, so his/her virginity is not a concern…what you can mind is faithfullness.
past is past and what your spouse did before meeting you is not a reason to break up.
what is a reason to breaak up is that he’s cheating on you or looking girls in street:hoonh:
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Parissenoor.....i agree!!
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Let it be to Allah to forgive him. He might hae been quiet about it cuz he didnt want to loose you cuz he loves u.
If he repents and will never repeat it again, go ahead with it. But if its a lifestyle then his faith is questionable and ur values ashud be more important to u
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You know Forgiving someone is a great thing ...... If he is saying that he is not gonna do it again just Forgive him Once. He he goes again then you can do whatever you want.:)
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Depends on how I found out. Did he lie to me? Intentionally hide this? Or did he confess. Does he regret that he has sinned? Or is he proud of it?
If someone has repented for their sins and makes a sincere effort, I think I would forgive them and go ahead with the wedding if I trusted him.
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how can you expect guys to be virgin when most of them in this culture get married around 28 or 29...u think they should just let their best days in life go by without having any fun and think about losing their virginity after marriage when they are just a little older....life is short and we dont stay young forever so make hay while the sun is still shining
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same for girls;)
ahem....
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What a blatant display of a loose character…
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^ lose character? lol...yeah according to mullahs with big beards who molest little childeren
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i dont like that.. i would for sure lose respect for them....
if they are not virgin it shows how important their faith is to them... i am not a saint or anything like that... but there are few things that are simply wrong and there is NO exception in case of Zina its totally haram....
i dont know what value can they teach my kids....
now if they were married before ... its understandable *duah.... i wont have a problem with that... *
I agree with Nisa ji ...... She has written extreemly practical points..
I'd say, get back lady. Get back. you are not worth this guy and this family. One of our relatives is trying to approach my mother in an effort to get his daughter married to me. We know already she is not a good girl character wise. She is beautiful, tall, and all that but she is not good character wise. We are not proceeding because the question is why I should accpet someone who is like that. I never had any girlfriend nor do I talk freely with girls? Why would I be getting this?
My chastity is for someone who would deserve it...... Same goes to you lady. Get back.............*
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Mizna ji
He is having a little naughty mind at the moment, thats all. You are getting serious on his comments… 
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sure girls can do it too...i am not saying that only guys shouldd be allowed to have a bit of romance before marriage...being from paris i am sure u ll agree with me..:D
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there is a big difference between romance and sleeping around.....
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desidudecool](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/member.php?u=36163)
You are smart guy.
But probably you are forgetting, what happens in the morning after one night of having some fun. You get kicked in the butt and then out of the bed.
Right??? 
Hope that suffice for now…