Reha
February 26, 2010, 8:05pm
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I tend to agree with Deeba.
This is hypothetical and therefore not reality. It is doubtful that one would meet someone who is ‘exactly what you wanted’ and then for there to be such a chasm in thinking,
Why would he have pursued a successful career woman only to ask her to stay at home?
Pointless to question what one would do in non realistic situations.
My friend’s younger brother became a trader earning big money at the age of 22 and he got married at 25. He got re-introduced to a girl from his course who he’d never really spoken to, who was also a trader in the city. She gave up her job quite willingly as this is what they both wanted but this kind of stuff was established immediately, not left to an over dinner conversation after they had fallen for each other. Usually, that’s not a singular desire either. He had a lot of other requests, one being that they don’t live in his flat in the city but rather with his parents as he wants her to learn to cook and keep house like mama. Which I found rather amusing given that his mum is only so organised as she has always worked full time as well taking care of the family. Materially, he showers her with stuff but how she dresses etc is dictated by his tastes.
What I’m trying to say is that people don’t have single desires isolated from all others. You won’t get a guy you ‘click with perfectly’ and then who comes with a left field request (to a career girl) like this. It will be part of his outlook and opinions from the start.
Million dollar question.
Its about prestige.
Men who pursue an engineer or doctor do it because they want a staple. The woman carries the guy’s family into prestige because she is a doctor or an educated woman.
In many circles, the guy is not that educated himself but he wants the respect/izzat all the same. This is where the wife comes in and he basically uses her as a ticket into social circles he might have a harder time getting into on his own.
Its sinister isnt it? Ive seen it first hand though…