Lets say you are a successful career woman…you’ve got an education and a stable job. Your career is going where you hoped it would someday…can’t complain aside from not having a man around to share it with.
You meet this amazing man who seems to look really good on paper and in other ways appears to have it all together too. You click really well, the chemistry is there, attraction, he is fun and social. He wines and dines you, knows how to woo you and basically sweeps you right off your feet.
Im hearin’ wedding bells ladies!
The catch is…
He wants you to stay home and be a housewife/mother.
What's all the sweeps you off your feet nonsense. There's the problem isn't it, the girl was too busy being swept that she didn't notice that they don't really click and don't have the same outlook or desires in life.
thats how my husband was when we got married (arrange marriage, we didn't have the opportunity to talk about these things) I was in school at that time so I didn't bother much but then I started brain washing him, he understood and I plan to work until we have kids... communication.. simple as that!
This kind of thing should be discussion not a request or a demand and should essentially take place prior to marriage.
Some gals want career even after kids and can handle career, household and kids - some cannot. Marry one with the same views and desires as yourself and no problem. Wait till after marriage to discover the others point of view and you're risking disaster.
This kind of thing should be discussion not a request or a demand and should essentially take place prior to marriage.
Some gals want career even after kids and can handle career, household and kids - some cannot. Marry one with the same views and desires as yourself and no problem. Wait till after marriage to discover the others point of view and you're risking disaster.
Lets say you are a successful career woman...you've got an education and a stable job. Your career is going where you hoped it would someday...can't complain aside from not having a man around to share it with.
You meet this amazing man who seems to look really good on paper and in other ways appears to have it all together too. You click really well, the chemistry is there, attraction, he is fun and social. He wines and dines you, knows how to woo you and basically sweeps you right off your feet.
Im hearin' wedding bells ladies!
The catch is...
He wants you to stay home and be a housewife/mother.
If I really like him, I wouldn't be too reactive but would ask him why he thinks that way. Then we would go back and forth and if I really enjoyed what I did, I would share my opinion with him. If I realize that our povs really don't come close to each other in improtant decisions such as this, I would seriously think about the future of the relationship.
i had the same thing happen to me …ditto and he said the same thing where i had my carier on the way to full glooms but i left it alll for himmm…and then right after 6 months of my wedding he was the one who find out jobs for me in the newspapers…
This kind of thing should be discussion not a request or a demand and should essentially take place prior to marriage.
Some gals want career even after kids and can handle career, household and kids - some cannot. Marry one with the same views and desires as yourself and no problem. Wait till after marriage to discover the others point of view and you're risking disaster.
He wants you to stay home and be a housewife/mother.
whether men calls it or not its a full time job without pay or any vacations. even though Islam does say do give your wife money if she cleans his house and feeds his kids but modern day husbands argues that its your house and they are your kids aswell.
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if my husbands say stay at home...i will say OK..cuz i need to concentrate on few falsafas of life anyways. and i need to compile em in a book or write a thesis.
This kind of thing should be discussion not a request or a demand and should essentially take place prior to marriage.
Some gals want career even after kids and can handle career, household and kids - some cannot. Marry one with the same views and desires as yourself and no problem. Wait till after marriage to discover the others point of view and you're risking disaster.
and then right after 6 months of my wedding he was the one who find out jobs for me in the newspapers…
