I lose hope concerning men too.
Probably we will never understand each other.
What a loss…
I think it would be an absolute miracle if I found a guy that wasnt a mama’s boy and didnt think I have to kiss his mother’s feet in order to win his affection.
We don’t want our wives to kiss our mother’s feet. We just want you to give them respect. The same respect that your think your mother deserves from your SIL and nothing more.
**Respect is a two way street…dont expect it unless you’re ready to reciprocate with the same. **
I know men who are so pathetic their wives have to cut their fingernails for them!
Assumptions! I have at many times groomed my wife’s nails because I wanted her to look good. Many a times she asked me herself. I never thought it being demeaning. I can ask her to do things for me which I cannot ask anyone else, not even my mother. That is the beauty of marriage. How a story is told to you and how you perceive are two different things. Be careful of how you form your opinions based on someone else narrations.
**You cutting your wife’s nails because you may give good pedicures is one thing. But a man not caring if his nails look like fangs is entirely another! **
I know men who beat their wives.
I know wives who beat their husbands. Domestic violence is big no. Get rid of the person immediately.
**Really? Do you think more women abuse and beat their husbands or men? Which do you think is the majority? **
I know men who have never had a job in their lives…because their women work to support them.
It is an outcome of women lib. Again, it is hard to form a conclusion unless you know the reality yourself without a bit of assumption. I have a friend who stays home and takes care of the kids while his wife works. They made a mutual decision because his wife’s salary was much more than what he was getting.
**No, its not. Its an outcome of alcohol and the complete disregard they have for women now. **
I know men who wont let their women work because it will make them too smart.
Again, it is hard to form a conclusion unless you know the reality yourself without a bit of assumption.
**Wow…so if I say something its an assumption. But you hold all the answers because someone died and made you God? **
No assumptions…these are facts narrated by the women themselves. NOT a he-said she-said type of thing. Ive spoken to their husbands “kya karengi kaam karke? inke do paison se kya poora ghar chalega?”
All of this improvement needs to come from the women because the men are bholay bhalay se bachay and so mazloom. Men dont have minds of their owns, a voice, convictions, preferences, responsibilities, etc.
Not all. But this should not be an excuse for not looking at your own follies.
**Its not an excuse…its a little bit of a realization for people like you that the fault does not lie alone with women. Man was created by Allah swt also and Islam does not hold anyone else accountable for another’s sins. So please dont exempt yourself from the responsibility of the future. You are equally at fault because you do nothing to stop or help. **
Where in Islam does it say men are void of responsibility and that women will take the fall for all mankind?
I prefer not to comment on religion, unless I am completely sure.
**Then you might want to be sure. **
Seriously, it seems like the improvements should be coming from both sides. Not just women so you dont have to shoulder the responsibilities.
That is a positive remark.