You answered your question yourself. Get your brothers and family to deal with him. And most of all, be a good wife, so when your husband is asked about treating you badly, he will have no excuses. You have a tounge, sort it out by politely (and lovingly) asking him afterall what is the reason he treats you like that, what can you do to make him happy. Do whatever you can to please him, make him smile. He has a heart afterall, he may feel something someday. May Allah help us all, (Ameen)
I will tell you all what I think. Its really hard to understand the mentality of such men. But what I think is that they are so much deprived of love themselves, that they don’t want others around them be loved too. They are frustrated with life, with themselves, with those around them, so they express all that by agression and violence. They haven’t tasted the sweet feeling of love. If we learn to love them, they will learn to love us. This is what I think, but some may disagree.
And most importantly, be grateful and thankful to Allah, that He chose you to be a believer in Him, so you know Him and can ask Him for help as much as you want.
I am amazed and really respect and look up to all those brave and sensible women here who have put up so much to live with ease and happiness with such mean husbands and in-laws.
May Allah reward all those women who had put up so much with their mean husbands and in-laws and bless them with happiness, Ameen.