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I would recommend listening to your husband.
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then u keep poppin babies so u have an excuse to stay at home
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What a contrast between this and the other thread by Anil Khan? Surely, that time is coming when all husbands will want their wives to work. It won't remain their prerogative. The more the ladies go and work out, the more the pressure will be on the ladies who do not want to work out. Especially, the one who already have sufficient educational background.
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You always do............
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It's not about the money, the poor guy is just scared his wife will turn into a typical desi housewife who stuffs herself while watching Bollywood movies and gossiping on the phone.
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Oh God, not another one. I hope you’re not plugging it. That’s not true that you just sit and make money, so not true.
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Xtra money is always nice.
Well, I think if they’re childless and have been married for quite a while (i.e., not newlyweds), and she doesn’t have any family members/inlaws to take care of (if they’re sick) then why not work? But once ther’es kids in the picture, it’s a different thing altogether. I think it would be nice to take time off after getting married, just a few months, just to spend time with him 
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nicely put 
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i actually know a girl who would love to be a housewife
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I would honestly love to be a housewife, at least for a few months until I settle in (if I move to another city/country) or until I get bored. Realistically though, I don't think it is possible. The few weeks I wasn't working a few years ago, I got terribly agitated sitting at home and really wanted to work. Plus, a lot of men these days don't appreciate housewives if there aren't any children. Who needs the additional drama?
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oh boy - these things need to be discussed before tying the knot.
If they don't need the extra cash then the lady can keep herself busy with volunteer work.
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Its nice in a way to read these posts that are so very innocent of the realities here....and no, that is NOT a sarcastic remark!
I've seen both sides and beleive me my life would be so very much easier if I went back to work and hired an au-pair! But that isnt what I want for my boys, same with my hubby. It is an overwhelming, all-encompassing, 24 hour a day, 7 day task. Its the "toughest job you'll ever love" as the saying goes. There is just no end to all that needs to be done, all the attention growing and active little minds need. And the sense of security they get from a parent always being there for them is just beyond any salary I could possibly make.
I'm so very blessed that I DO have the choice and that I know I can make a good living to support us if God Forbid anything should ever happen to my dear husband. That makes a big difference I think.
If you feel "trapped" into being a "doormat wife", my advice is get out and dont do it. Its something that should be entered into with love and wonder at the miracle of life you make together.
And if you're a guy who wants a "traditional" wife, then TALK about it first....will she be happy with her life if she has a few years of success and career and then settles down to be a "soccer Mom"? Or will she be addicted to Bruno Magli shoes, power lunches and coming home to a nice dinner prepared by the hired help?
NOT to imply that either way is right or wrong....both ways can be right and both ways can be wrong...all depends on the level of agreement between the couple!!
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How many of our desi girls let their husband have the same choice? Mehnaz, will you let your husband relax for a few months and continue working yourself if your parents import a desi dulha for you from Pakistan?
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This thread reminds me of a guy friend who wants a rocket scientist smart wife but would like her to stay at home after the wedding. Is that fair to her? Not in my book. Agree with whoever said, it should be more of a choice and not being forced into doing either or (staying at home or working).
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Nice topic. I'm actually one of those women who don't intend to work when i'm married unless i'm in a situation where I 'need' to work for financial reasons.
When I was younger i'd always have this fire in me to get the furthest I could career-wise. Things are different now. To be honest being a housewife does not sound like a bad option, it sounds appealing. I dragged my education on so that I could be a student forever and not work and when I think of working it does not seem all that. I'm doing my PGCE on top of my masters just for the fact that if I ever wanna work when I'm married i'm qualified to actually teach children in my own home and give tuiton to them instead of going out to work.
I know money equals power but hey I like to be pampered, and besides spending someone else's money is more fun;)
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Close enough 
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why do you guys think ppl go to work because they are bored at home? .. i go to work because i need the money to save up for myself and my family.. simple as that.. I dont go to work because i am bored..
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^ Not ppl who go to work, but rather women.. it si the traditional role of men to work to provide for their families and women to stay home and nurture what the man has financially provided.. nowadays it is more common for owmne to work, but women who work because they have a passion for it , because they love to, not just to waste time before htey get married, are still in some ways looked down upon n harder to find..
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well b4 marriage, they have their parents to support them and after marriage their husbands. if they want to work despite their parents support then why can't they work after marriage? if traditional ways can be changed for women then same can be done for men. women go out and earn money and men can stay home and take care of kids and stuff whenever they want. u can't expect
men to stick to lousy traditions just for the sake of women who don't give a char-anay when it comes to their own traditional place. :p
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1-she’s allways telling the husband that she’s too tired at night after hard working days for marriage requirements:halo:
2- the diner is never ready cause she arrives late from work and hubby have to go out for eating:D
3- she wakes up hubby at 5AM on saturdday, cause she has so much cleaning and vaccuuming to do on saturday before going to supermarket!