Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for…, there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve…, that you lose inspiration… lose interests lose a desire to live…,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable…, that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
Is it a common experience…, n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
^Are you experiencing such feelings? And if so, for how long? Seems like a case of depression. And you might need to consult a doctor. But before doing that, examine your current lifestyle. A healthy diet can help prevent depression. Certain vitamins such as B-complex help to keep moods stable. It is has been found that people suffering from depression are usually low in this vitamin. Make sure that you're eating healthy and taking a multivitamin. Sufficient sleep and regular exercise help to uplift the mood as well. Making simple adjustments in your routine can help you feel better.
Now, let's talk about the emotional part of all this. Have you accomplished everything? There are so many things to try out (food, hobbies, books, projects) and so many places to see. I don't think it's possible to **exhaust all **possibilities. If you haven't been able to attain some things in your life, perhaps they weren't meant for you and their absence could actually be a blessing. Psychologists say that people who help others out and have faith in some religion or the other are least likely to be depressed.....or are able to bounce back up from depression.
^If you look at your post, you kept mentioning "your **achievements" and all that "you*" have achieved. Or all that "you*" have not achieved. But what about helping others? It's very spiritually uplifting to help others in some way or the other. To do volunteer work. To start an organization/project designed to help people in need. It is said that the best thing a Muslim can do is to help others. If you feel that you have achieved all your own goals.....then why not help those who are struggling or less fortunate achieve their goals? Or help relieve someone's burden or stress?
Having a social network is also very essential in preventing depression. Hang out with your friends, travel with them, turn to them for emotional support. And faith can help as well. We're not in this world to strictly fulfill only **our **goals and accomplishments. There's a bigger purpose....and it doesn't revolve around us. Some reflection, meditation, prayer, and dhikr can help you put things in perspective.
I think it's natural for all people to have such negative thoughts. Or mood are never constant. But I have found that....even in the moments when you feel like you're just barely hanging by a thread....making the above adjustments in your lifestyle can make a strong positive difference. And if not.....it's best to consult a doctor.
Your life is not only your life....it is intertwined with the lives of many other people who not only depend on you, but value your existence as an individual.
Yes...and it can be overcome. It's not easy though...
I went through a slump like that when I was at my sickest. You need to push yourself to keep going out, trying new things and meeting new people. Where do you live? If you're from Chicago I can introduce to some great organizations with some of the best people you will ever meet; social work and getting a chance to give back makes you realise that no matter how bad your life is: you can still make a positive difference.
I would start taking vitamins, working out (running...especially), and start taking part in some creative endeavors. Whatever you choose to do in the end: don't isolate yourself, and keep going! It will pass.
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for..., there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve...,, that you loose inspiration... loose interests loose a desire to live...,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable..., that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
You die
Is it a common experience..., n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
Severe depression is fairly common.
Yes, but it requires appropriate and immediate medical/psychiatric evaluation and treatment.
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for..., there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve...,, that you loose inspiration... loose interests loose a desire to live...,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable..., that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
Is it a common experience..., n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
Yeah it happened with me once but we have to live even if life becomes boring or when you have nothing to live for......
Suicide is not allowed........& there is no other option either....
As someone said above, try to read Quran & Namazz, that should give you courage & will to live.....:)
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for..., there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve...,, that you loose inspiration... loose interests loose a desire to live...,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable..., that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
Is it a common experience..., n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
of course this happens to MOST normal people.
Let me tell you that when you hit the bottom and it seems there is nothing left in life - YOU MUST - ABSOLUTELY MUST - take a break from where you are.
Take a break from the life you are living.
Take a break and LEAVE the place you are at.
Take a break and GO BACK TO YOUR motherland.
Go there you WILL find yourself back again.
You will see the purpose in life again.
It's the love and welcoming nature of the people around you that help you get back straight in life.
There are many different situations that cause this depression. Two are major:
rejection from a loved one, and
burnt out at work
What's bugging you?
Why are you so down and depressed?
Good thing you posted here for help. Now tell us waz up?
^ NJMASTI makes a good point. We all need a break just to get away from the daily routine of life. How about a vacation? You could travel back to your country of origin. Or you can travel to some place you've always been interested in visiting. But wherever you go...surround yourself with family and friends. When people are depressed, they need the support of their family and friends even more. And staying alone by yourself is not healthy because that will only make it easier for you to think about negative things. So keep yourself busy with the people you love. As the saying goes.....an idle or bored mind is the attracts shaitan.
Thanks for all the advice from every one, honestly I was not expecting this level of kindness. There were a lot of valuable suggestions some of which I have already tried(those related to faith,hobbies etc) & others (like re-evaluation of diet etc.) I may try.
The thing with me is that I was an extremely driven, self motivated, passionate & focused person with certain high level goals in mind that I set out to achieve when I was 16. I don’t know when & how I lost it but I have come to a point when it appears to me that I will never be able to reach my goals.
At this point there have been two approaches I have been using to get out of this state
1)Trying to re-motivate myself into believing that I can reach my goals again.
2)Doing more exploration & setting out newer goals & objectives in life.
But both of these approaches have not been effective in helping me get out of this convoluted state of mind I am in.
Thanks again to all for all the kind words..
There are two types of goals...long term goals....and short term goals. Take a goal and break it down into smaller steps. Write what materials you'll need to accomplish each step. Then make a list of connections (people, agencies, contacts) that could help you with each step. And then create deadlines for each step.
Often times, we try to do too much and we burn out and get disheartened if the results are not what we expected. But if it means that much to you, give it your best shot! And praying helps as well. Believe that Allah has the power to give you what you want. But also believe that He has infinite wisdom and he may give you something better than you wish. Sometimes we don't know what is best for us. But persist in your goals. It's okay to have more than one goal. Just break it up into smaller steps.
A year ago, my friend and I wrote a story for children. And we started mailing it out to publishers. We received rejection letter after rejection letter. Some of these letters contained praise and encouragement but it was still not an acceptance. I had many hopes that our story would get published. And even though it wasn't accepted anywhere, I'm still proud of myself for having come that far....for actually mailing it out to the publishing companies. Most people might only get as far writing the story and stuffing it in a drawer.
I still haven't given up my dream. I plan to have my own individual story published one day. And I'm doing research on the process. It's a long journey, but you should have pride in the efforts that you make....and keep trying....and praying.
It's like the book, The Alchemist says, "When you desire something so strongly, the universe conspires to get it for your you." Think of it as...when you give something your best efforts....Allah will make something good come out of it!
Thanks for all the advice from every one, honestly I was not expecting this level of kindness. There were a lot of valuable suggestions some of which I have already tried(those related to faith,hobbies etc) & others (like re-evaluation of diet etc.) I may try.
The thing with me is that I was an extremely driven, self motivated, passionate & focused person with certain high level goals in mind that I set out to achieve when I was 16. I don’t know when & how I lost it but I have come to a point when it appears to me that I will never be able to reach my goals.
At this point there have been two approaches I have been using to get out of this state
1)Trying to re-motivate myself into believing that I can reach my goals again.
2)Doing more exploration & setting out newer goals & objectives in life.
But both of these approaches have not been effective in helping me get out of this convoluted state of mind I am in.
Thanks again to all for all the kind words..
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for..., there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve...,, that you lose inspiration... lose interests lose a desire to live...,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable..., that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
Is it a common experience..., n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
Yes I did. Couples of dacades ago. Still don't have any desire to live (now I changed little bit as known that as a muslim we can't ask death panalty from Allah on daily basis. It's haram. Yes I did several attempts im my life to finish). Nothing helped. I lost every hope in everything.
I'm still in that phase no hope, no desire. Nothing to do as I finished my education and achieved my some goals. Now I'm settled.
Now I wan't to live a life no, not for myself but for the person around me. Want to see me happy and alive. That person wants to see a dead person alive. Thats so funny. I say for myself "Main to wo hasti hoon jo apna hi janaza apnay kandhon pay liaay phirta hoon, Na koi noha kunaa hai na jaloos e maatmi. Main to bhoot bun kay GS pay phirta hoon. lol
Now I'm trying to come back to life. Yes I do like in going to life again but I can't that ghost of Namuradi Snactch me again from life.
I feel good when I try or participate in Life. But it doesn't make me happy from inside. May be keep doing it will help. The person around me trying very hard.
That person says you looks like from your face that you are mad (ghussay main) I tell that I'm a serious person. I remain serious. I don't laugh. Nothing can make me laugh. Very rare I laugh but that is only to make ppl around me happy.
Keep trying to back in life you'll love it. Yes I do love it. Nothing cheers me up completly. May be I love living in my life don't want to come back life.
To tell you the truth when ppl meet me they say you are so funny and cool person. Yes I do laugh a lot. Make fun but all is you know just to show ppl that I'm happy to make them happy.
The exact goals are unimportant.... What I am referring to are those higher ideals , values & purpose that drives you ..., not being able to achieve my goals that I had referred in an earlier post was only because that is from which I drove my inspiration in life & failures in that realm resulted in the evaporation of passion from my life..., as I reflect its not my failure that I grieve its the loss of purpose that I crave for.
Well I feel very similar to you..., infact after reading your posts it seems you are far more intensely distressed then me...,
To me it has led to inaction... lack of participation , laziness which makes me ponder about my situation even more & therefore get more distressed ...,
I know this line of thought will only bring in depression..., but simply knowing the insanity of my thoughts does not help me get rid of it.