Re: What happens to when the desire to live dies
Stochastic, if your life have become useless to you and u cannot get rid of it, use it to help other people. Give your time to a homeless shelter and help them, or go to Africa and help them. Or go to Pakistan and start a school.
If your life has nothing to offer you, offer your life to someone else.
Well I feel very similar to you..., infact after reading your posts it seems you are far more intensely distressed then me..., To me it has led to inaction... lack of participation , laziness which makes me ponder about my situation even more & therefore get more distressed ..., I know this line of thought will only bring in depression..., but simply knowing the insanity of my thoughts does not help me get rid of it.
Ohh do I express myself stressed from my posts. Why I'm more stressed because I love to listen/watch/read stressed or depressed songs/movies/stories/programs and real life stories. That's why you will find my more post in life 1 forum. As I want to help ppl from my tajarba. As I seen many ppl give very wrong advice. I'm not saying that I give gr8 advice but whatever I know or seen or heard I can tell ppl on that basis. As PPL who have gone through the situations can understand better and consider everything than those who have no clue about the problems.
I only show true or inside of myself on GS. But in reality you won't belive that it's me heera the gr8 lol.
As what I do drama of showing I'm very happy to make my family happy that I'm happy as I don't want to make them sad. I've been doing this so long so now I'm used to it. I love my way being stressed in my world and around a joyous person.
Stochastic, if your life have become useless to you and u cannot get rid of it, use it to help other people. Give your time to a homeless shelter and help them, or go to Africa and help them. Or go to Pakistan and start a school.
If your life has nothing to offer you, offer your life to someone else.
Ohhhh my Allah thats what I want to do. But I don't want to go to Africa but to Pakistan and help ppl.
Yeah that is a good mashwara for you S.
You might be in initial stage of this now I'll say go back to the world. It would be way easier for you. I can go too but I don't want to go back I love my this life.
What you have to do is totally forget about the thing/person or whatever made you this just think Allah did something good to you to saved you from that. Which would not be good for you. Just believe in Allah. Whatever he does to us is the best thing for us.
Don't watch/listen/see/hear about any stressed thing. Try to remain happy.
The place your eyes see most of the time post Happy though or happy face or put a smiling face.
Always think about happy things in your life forget about the bad things ppl said or did to you or something happened to you.
Always see positive side of each thing.
Make an aim everyday before going to bed that you have to do these good things tomorrow. Keep doing it everyday. It will change you for sure.
Watch/read/listen/hear things that motivate you or stuffs you like to do.
Ohh do I express myself stressed from my posts. Why I'm more stressed because .
Just wanted to clarify when I said 'reading your posts' it was only limited to this thread.., I just registered on this site yesterday so I am not familiar with any of the other posts from you.
Stochastic, if your life have become useless to you and u cannot get rid of it, use it to help other people.
I am definitely not suicidal.., I have never tried to take my life..., but I have just lost desires.
Give your time to a homeless shelter and help them, or go to Africa and help them. Or go to Pakistan and start a school. If your life has nothing to offer you, offer your life to someone else.
I live in Pakistan with my parents... ,
all the recommendation of humanitarian & community service are very reasonable , the problem is a disconnect between something that seems reasonable & acting on it.
Re: What happens to when the desire to live dies
All this time(around 2 years) I have been resisting any professional/external help on this situation.., always resorting to internalizing... & not expressing how I feel. This was the first time I tried to share some of my internal thoughts my conclusion after this is that I was right internalizing . Don't get me wrong most people here have been very kind... , much beyond my expectation.., But I believe nothing anyone (friend or a professional) will tell me that I already dont know.., its a phyciological problem in my head & convolution of my thoughts which only I will have to help myself escape from .
Just remember me in your prayers.
Thanks everyone for your sincere responses.
Just wanted to clarify when I said 'reading your posts' it was only limited to this thread.., I just registered on this site yesterday so I am not familiar with any of the other posts from you.
Thanks for clarifying. I was thinking that I've been giving these pyaray pyaray guppies stress. I don't want to transfer my stress in my post to make ppl like me sad.
All this time(around 2 years) I have been resisting any professional/external help on this situation.., always resorting to internalizing... & not expressing how I feel. This was the first time I tried to share some of my internal thoughts my conclusion after this is that I was right internalizing . Don't get me wrong most people here have been very kind... , much beyond my expectation.., But I believe nothing anyone (friend or a professional) will tell me that I already dont know.., its a phyciological problem in my head & convolution of my thoughts which only I will have to help myself escape from . Just remember me in your prayers. Thanks everyone for your sincere responses.
Whatever the matter is don't take it serious.
Go back to life as soon as possible.
You are welcome.
Sure Allah aap ko nijaat dilaay is ghalat soach ya andaz ya tareeqa e kaar say.
Re: What happens to when the desire to live dies
that is a good thread! This is what I'm asking myself all the time...
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for..., there is no higher goal,ideal objective that you strive for or look forward to achieve...,, that you lose inspiration... lose interests lose a desire to live...,everything you wanted to achieve; you either achieve it or you come to a point that it becomes certain to you that it is unachievable..., that you stop looking forward the next day with anticipation & purpose . The only thing that bothers you is that nothing bothers/matters you any more,
Is it a common experience..., n has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
The exact goals are unimportant.... What I am referring to are those higher ideals , values & purpose that drives you ..., not being able to achieve my goals that I had referred in an earlier post was only because that is from which I drove my inspiration in life & failures in that realm resulted in the evaporation of passion from my life..., as I reflect its not my failure that I grieve its the loss of purpose that I crave for.
All this time(around 2 years) I have been resisting any professional/external help on this situation.., always resorting to internalizing... & not expressing how I feel. This was the first time I tried to share some of my internal thoughts my conclusion after this is that I was right internalizing . Don't get me wrong most people here have been very kind... , much beyond my expectation.., But I believe nothing anyone (friend or a professional) will tell me that I already dont know.., its a phyciological problem in my head & convolution of my thoughts which only I will have to help myself escape from . Just remember me in your prayers. Thanks everyone for your sincere responses.
You may be good in solving your problem, and seems you want to do that on your own.
However, it seems your goals and not being able to achieve those has a lot to do with it.
Yes it matters what goals are set.
Setting your goals to match your abilities will never make you feel disappointed.
**
**If the problem is not having any more goals, since all have already been achieved, then this cannot be true.
There are always something to struggle for.
Or always some new goals to be made to keep going on with life.
Please remember:
Just as there is always something to die for (figuratively speaking), there is always something to live for.
Has it ever happen to anyone that you come to a point in your life when you have nothing to live for...
has anyone come back in life after going through such a phase
Yes. And yes people come back from it after going through this phase. No guarantees you wont find yourself in the same spot again until you actually deal with the root problem causing you to feel this way but you will definitely bounce back.
All this time(around 2 years) I have been resisting any professional/external help on this situation.., always resorting to internalizing... & not expressing how I feel. This was the first time I tried to share some of my internal thoughts my conclusion after this is that I was right internalizing . Don't get me wrong most people here have been very kind... , much beyond my expectation.., But I believe nothing anyone (friend or a professional) will tell me that I already dont know.., its a phyciological problem in my head & convolution of my thoughts which only I will have to help myself escape from . Just remember me in your prayers. Thanks everyone for your sincere responses.
Tell me about it!!!
I know, its really very frustrating. (no offence to anyone, its just how one feels sometimes)
Turn to God, that's the single, most important, AND UNDERSTANDING guidance one can get in life.
Cheers
Tell me about it!!!
I know, its really very frustrating. (no offence to anyone, its just how one feels sometimes)
Turn to God, that's the single, most important, AND UNDERSTANDING guidance one can get in life.
Cheers
Zabardast.
Pray to Allah and ask his help and also try to help yourself.
Re: What happens to when the desire to live dies
Im not really a fan of advice to prayer. Imo prayer comes from the heart, not from mental-illness (which is what depression is. ) It causes personality shifts and noteable dismorphia.
I am really a believer of what will not kill you will make it better and also that some of us suffer through these times so that we can see the glittering for the gold that it is. You appreciate life so much more for almost losing it. Kinda.
As romantic as I've made it sound, as with any disease there are ways to make coping with it easier so Amen to leMocker. Exercise, psychiatric help - keep in view that you will not necessarily get along with the first or second, persevere until you stumble across someone who can really help.
Also achievement. What have you always wanted to do with your life? Do it.
And think about it this way: even the oldest of us aren't around for that long anyway. why not stick around to see what all the fuss is about.
Best of luck!
Re: What happens to when the desire to live dies
For some reason, I don't think its depression... or if it really is, its a very mild form... more of a bad phase in life... it sometimes takes time to accept the changes life throws at you, but once you realize you have to rise above, making you FAITH stronger, things appear to be better...
^Nice advice, but lets not be jaded here, prayer is a prayer... for He knows whats best for each and everyone...