what factors leads the teenagers to smoke?

[Moonshiner]

@zobia

lol...how come it is the easiest thing?

if it is the easiest thing then why these illicit activities are not being stopped, instead are being progressed day by day?

Zobia bajee, it's a business. People want to buy and there are people who want to sell. As to why it's not being stopped, you have to understand that the government actually facilitates the drug trade. Drugs are a big business, and the government has a hand in it. If you have a chance, watch American Drug War: The Last White Hope. It discusses the CIA's involvement in the cocaine trade. Why would anybody want to stop an activity, albeit illicit, but very, very profitable?

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and if not identifying the root cause (that why someone wana sell them, and why someone wana buy them), what else should be my concern then?
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The root cause is human. Humans like drugs. They want to take drugs. Drugs can be prescription, alcohol, tobacco (legal) or marijuana, cocaine, heroin (illegal).

Humans also like money. Drugs are a very lucrative way to make a lot of money, although with a very high risk.

[RoCKiSTaN]

It's not always peer pressure. It's something similar to the curious george type feeling. Nothing else at all.

[hareem01]

I have already answered the question, read the thread again ------ please.

And no I don't want mini mes, I give free choice to my children in every thing including religion. Would you do that?

Okay so you would let your children join this hobby.....

And how do you give free choice to your children in religion? By not teaching them about religions?

I teach my children about the religion I follow and also other religions.....once they grow up they are free to choose the way?

[Light_Bearer]

so did you find the reasoning behind that why the use of illicit drugs is forbidden in Islam, or in your language "taboo in society"?

Too many bad drivers lets ban the car mentality.

a person who has strong will power can say that, do you have that?

I think I do have strong will power as I have given up smoking.

what about alcohol, does it give u new life? (you can wait for another 10 years and post the reply of this)

Excess of everything is bad including halal things eg beef.

were you in Pakistan, or somewhere else when you started drinking? and was it illegal in that region where you live to drink at that age? how did you get access of it?

I grew up in Dubai, back in those days there were no checks and balances, now theres an age limit of 21 and they are very strict about it. Its allowed to buy liquor in night clubs.

and also how did u get access to those drugs?

During vacations in Pakistan and studying in UK. It was just experimentation. I say it was just a part of growing up.

and one important question, how did your parents reacted when they found out about you being involved in all these activities?

Mom was furious about smoking but shes cool now because I have stopped. If she knows about drinking, she has never mentioned.

why do people say this (what you wrote) for drinkers then? if you think they are all jokes, then you should be happily give to children as well

Everyone has their own reason, you should ask to the people who say these things, not me. Why I should be happy to give anything to anyone. Shouldn't everyone be given their own chances to find a hobby which gives them happiness. Why do you have this urge to decide for other people.

ps. if you are exception, and i also believe you are blessed otherwise it is not hard to be carried away with these things...what ya say am i right?

I am not an exception but I am blessed. Let me tell you another thing, thanks God all my friends are successful drinkers/nondrinkers except one who is a non smoker and non drinker. Now I am not implying that his failure is because of his non smoking and non drinking. My point is personal successes and failures has nothing to do with your hobbies if you know your limits and dont loose sight of your goals.

@hareem01

Okay so you would let your children join this hobby.....

And how do you give free choice to your children in religion? By not teaching them about religions?

I teach my children about the religion I follow and also other religions.....once they grow up they are free to choose the way?

I am giving them access to all kind of information which agrees with their respective ages. The point is to remain neutral until and unless it threatens their safety. BTW my wife is doing the religion thing with them. I teach them logic. So I think both areas are covered.

Its good that you are teaching your children the religion you are following and about the other religions as well. BUT are you being neutral in doing so? or are you at the same time pushing them only in one direction? I am no one to judge but as I am seeing your posts for so long now I doubt that you can stay neutral in the matter of religion but then again I might be wrong and you might be a totally different person in real life.

[hareem01]

@Light_Bearer

I am giving them access to all kind of information which agrees with their respective ages. The point is to remain neutral until and unless it threatens their safety. BTW my wife is doing the religion thing with them. I teach them logic. So I think both areas are covered.

Its good that you are teaching your children the religion you are following and about the other religions as well.** BUT are you being neutral in doing so?** or are you at the same time pushing them only in one direction? I am no one to judge but as I am seeing your posts for so long now I doubt that you can stay neutral in the matter of religion but then again I might be wrong and you might be a totally different person in real life.

Are you? Are you yourself teach them about religion? Your wife does that because probably she herself is a religious person.

[Light_Bearer]

Re: what factors leads the teenagers to smoke?

^ The point is they are getting both sides of the coin. Religion from wife logic from me.

But you did not answer my question. Answering the question with a question is hardly a discussion. Thank you for participation though.

[hareem01]

@Light_Bearer

^ The point is they are getting both sides of the coin. Religion from wife logic from me.

But you did not answer my question. Answering the question with a question is hardly a discussion. Thank you for participation though.

so both of you parents are teaching your kids what you know and believe. Same here.:)

But I think most of the time we're teaching them by example about religion as our religion is the complete way of life, they haven't reached the age where they can learn Logic but they will be learning it in few years inshaAllah.

Do read Leslie Paul's A Living Hedge, a good book.

[The_Voice]

Re: what factors leads the teenagers to smoke?

basically losers who think that smoking makes them cool.

[samraali22]

Re: what factors leads the teenagers to smoke?

it just give them a feeling of being adults thats all.

[Precious_Princess]

I think its a lil of everything .... its what the child has picked up over the years and the idea of what they think is expected of them ...

most of the times its peer pressure and experimentation ... but the values the parenst teach them will usually have the most impact ... and also the fact if ur child gets in trouble and they are able to come to for ur help makes a big difference ... i guess thats why most kids that have had the drug/alcohol education from their parents are more able to come bac kon the right track as mentioned by another member ...

The best thing u can do for ur child is to teach them, educate them and guide them the best way u know how ... the rest is up to them then ... parents cannot be with the child 24/7 the rest of their life ...

[Precious_Princess]

@Light_Bearer

I think I do have strong will power as I have given up smoking.

perhaps it was easy for u to give up cuz u werent into it very much to begin with?

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@Light_Bearer

* *Smoking for me started as a time killer, when I was in my teens I had friends who were smokers but the thing never appealled me, so I never picked up the habbit. when I started working (and my work takes me to the most weirdest/isolated places on the earth) I started smoking just to kill time at the age of 24. But realised after 10 years if I do not quit sooner its going to kill me, so I am a smoker no more. Still I go for sheesha once in a while but habitul smoking is out.

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The one thing that was 'taboo' and prolly appealed to u the most was the drinking ... and the fact that u most likely dont drink infront of ur mom or at least dont make a public announcement of it in front of her as u did with the smoking keeps giving u that 'edge' u need??

Just a thoought and observation I made ... I'm not here to judge ... Allah swt knows best ...

[Light_Bearer]

perhaps it was easy for u to give up cuz u werent into it very much to begin with?

Possible but not probable at 2 packs (40 sticks) a day for 10 years.

The one thing that was 'taboo' and prolly appealed to u the most was the drinking ... and the fact that u most likely dont drink infront of ur mom or at least dont make a public announcement of it in front of her as u did with the smoking keeps giving u that 'edge' u need??

By "edge" do you mean "high/kick"?

[Precious_Princess]

Possible but not probable at 2 packs (40 sticks) a day for 10 years. By "edge" do you mean "high/kick"?

Ppl do give up smoking ... my dad did .. just cuz the doc told him to .. but it was alot harder for him .... cuz he didnt smoke to 'pass time' ...

it was just an idea, thats all .. i'm not saying there was no will power involved at all ... i just thought perhaps it was not ur 'thing' so giving up was possibly easier for u than others ...

ya ... high/kick ...

if u wanted to give up drinking all together forever, could u? or is it something u wouldnt ever consider even if ur life depended on it?